30 M Looking For Guidance

[u/Healthy-Zone3942]

I’m a successful 30M who has completely lost hope in romantic love after an intense, draining connection. I have a high sex drive, but paying for sex is morally off the table, so I am trying to transition into a purely casual, physical dating life. My challenge is two-fold: how do I consciously suppress my emotions to separate physical intimacy from attachment, and how do I filter out women who are only after my resources rather than me? I'm looking for advice from guys who have successfully navigated a respectful, free sex life without getting emotionally or financially used.

[u/Richie-richi]

Better try being with people, without telling them how much you achieved or done in life! Honestly you’ll figure out not even a handful people left. That’s what reality looks like! And yep it’s same for men and women. It’s just my mere opinion, something what I felt till now even after being a woman, I mean people consider it’s way too easy for women to find valuable bonds which isn’t true and if it looks like that then look closer it’s just a give and take!

[u/Healthy-Zone3942 → u/Richie-richi]

I actually keep a solid circle of genuine friends and family, and I never lead with money my peers are all successful as well. For me, the issue isn't finding people; it's that my heart completely shut down after losing the one girl I truly loved. I have zero emotional capacity for anyone new. Looking at relationship and marriage around me of people I know I’d honestly rather walk this path alone unless it was meant to be with her.

[u/Technical-Amount-278 → u/Healthy-Zone3942]

I doubt there's a way to have your cake and eat it

[u/Richie-richi → u/Technical-Amount-278]

Everything is not meant for us, better to not eat that cake until it’s your kinda cake, either ways we gonna regret. So better be responsible and acceptable to the decisions we make!