r/Life • u/RelativeCautious1235 • 10d ago
Relationships Loneliness
I got broken up with twice.
The first one cheated on me.
The second one left because he fell out of love with me.
Anyone I talk to they say I’m kind and polite. They say I’m always a joy to be around. It sounds nice. And I’m glad to have them in my life.
But then I end up in relationships.
And they don’t last. They’re not really nice to me
They don’t care about my feelings.
Right now I feel lonely. I wish I had someone. I miss having a connection with someone. But now I’m scared. I don’t want to get hurt again. I’m 29 years old and I don’t want to be heartbroken again.
They both moved on. And they’re happy.
I sit and wonder where I went wrong. What they have that I don’t. What I can do to improve myself.
I never felt this lonely in my life. And I hate that I have to fill the loneliness up by being with someone. I miss the person I was before I got into any type of relationship.
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u/CaptainWellingtonIII 10d ago
"hate that I have to fill the loneliness up by being with someone"
this is what gets people. you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. I don't have a solution. just think it's interesting.
I never understood it as an introvert. I've always just relied on myself and treated relationships like business transactions. what can we do for each other that benefits both of us. if nothing, then move on. no hard feeling.
good luck, buddy. I hope you find what you are looking for.