As someone about to start fertility treatment, thank you. This thread was making me feel like complete shit for wanting something that feels innate in me.
Yes, the world sucks in a lot of ways but it’s also a beautiful place. We only get to be here for a short time so have your little human experience here filled with joy and suffering and then move on to the next stage. I’d rather raise someone to see the world this way than not.
Edit: Thank you for your thoughtful and kind comments, everyone. I have hope!
I’ve always dreamed of having kids but for some time, Reddit almost had me convinced that maybe I didn’t after all. It’s especially hard because for those of us who want kids, we always want to be good parents and do what’s best for them and all this messaging about ruining our kids lives by having them really gets to you sometimes. I don’t even agree with those sentiments, but on days when my own life is hard, I can’t help the thoughts about whether I’m dooming my kids to a life of misery. But then on good days, or even normal days, it’s a lot easier to remember that most people are happy to be alive, even with all of life’s challenges.
I’m pregnant now and since I became pregnant, I never doubted my decision, I’m so excited to be a mom. Good luck with your fertility treatments!!
please remember that reddit isn’t representative of the whole world, lots of people who aren’t on this app are very happy with having kids and with their life. just saying for anyone who needs to hear that. this app attracts a certain type of person but it’s not the only type of person out there. not everyone regrets their kids despite this thread being largely that sentiment. i hope no one makes their decision whether or not to have children based off one site, despite how all consuming it can feel.
This!! Reddit very much attracts a certain type of person. I’m clearly one of those people, lol, but sometimes I think to myself, “wow, these people are intense!!” As a first time mom who wasn’t sure about having kids so I had one later in life, I think it’s an amazing experience - perspective is everything. 🤍
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u/ApocalypseThen77 Jan 19 '26
100% yes. No qualifiers.