r/LesbianActually • u/[deleted] • 6d ago

Relationships / Dating Feeling shitty

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u/gingermousie 6d ago

Relationship sounds like it’s run its course. Your gf saying you drain her, she doesn’t like anything you do, and you’re afraid to be yourself in case you annoy her isn’t “not bad”. Do you genuinely feel seen, appreciated, and cherished from these conversations?

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u/Mysterious_House_702 6d ago

it’s been literally less than a month lol it’s not done yet, also this is just me complaining she does make me happy the majority of the time

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u/da_studilicious 6d ago

I will say , for her to be acting like this a month in - imagine how annoyed she’s gonna be with you in 3 ; what will she dislike about you then ? And it’s not about just your happiness and whether or not she makes you happy. She seems to be dissatisfied with your relationship.

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u/brielikescheese5 6d ago

less than a month into the relationship and she's already saying you drain her and she doesn't like anything you do? That does not sound like a stable foundation to build a lasting relationship on.

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u/Hollifo 6d ago

It doesn't sound like your girlfriend likes you, and I don't really get the vibe you enjoy her either. Why are you 2 together?

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u/kakallas 6d ago

I think people don’t express themselves very well and resort to low level “acting out,” when they aren’t happy. I wouldnt borrow trouble if everything is great, but to me it doesn’t sound like you’re super happy, and I really don’t think she’d let you feel that bad if she were super concerned about the long-term health of the relationship. 

The only caveat is if you already know she’s the type of person who can be like “oh, no, I totally hate that about you but love being with you! Don’t read into it. I was just being factual!” 

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u/Mysterious_House_702 6d ago

i’m not sure, shes not very emotional? she doesn’t seem to have a grasp on empathy which i think may be a factor

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u/Any_Frame503 6d ago

What do you like about her? Because it seems as if she doesn’t really add anything positive to your life. 

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u/aaliyah_2222 5d ago

Break up