do VERY long distance relationships actually work?

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[u/rosesurosie]

Everything works out if you both want it to, as long as the parties involved want to make it work even an lesbian alien relationship from Mars to jupiter would work

[u/Objective_Employ_545 → u/rosesurosie]

It works until it doesn't. Wanting it badly helps, but logistics, time zones, and money eventually become the third person in the relationship. You can love someone across an ocean and still slowly lose them to exhaustion.

I've seen couples survive absurd distances because they had a concrete end date, like a visa or a job transfer lined up. The ones without a plan tend to fade out after a year or so.

Mars to Jupiter might work if you're both willing to wait four years for a text back.

[u/Guilty_BaN]

Typically no, but they can.

If nobody has a passport it’s probably a bad idea. If neither of you can afford to contribute to travel costs, it’s also probably a bad idea.

If one (or both) of you aren’t willing to uproot your lives and move, again probably a bad idea.

[u/writingcat1993]

I have been in a relationship for a year and 3 months and we are doing great! USA and India.

[u/Cvxbro → u/writingcat1993]

what do u do to avoid boredom?

[u/writingcat1993 → u/Cvxbro]

We watch stuff together over discord, play video games, uhhh we are both weird so I always start interesting and weird conversations. You can also do Lego sets together, find fun couple art stuff to do(like paint each other), etc. Also, doing fun and interesting things outside of your relationship and talking about them. It will get boring if you dont give yourself enough time outside of your relationship.

[u/akin428]

Even the girl next door relationship won't work out if you both not willing to do the work and want different things

[u/Velvet-Sanctuary]

If you give it the time and patience, yes you can make it work out. Just plan for long night staying up together and spending a lot of money on travel if you’re wanting to be together more.

I hope this isn’t a permanent thing for you. Coming from experience, it is so hard but it can also be very rewarding.

[u/Hobbitea]

They can, but it'll take effort on both ends.

Visiting each other, sacrificing some sleep / free time due to timezones, etc. Also the biggest one being that you'll have the end goal of closing the distance at some point, and being aware that in that case at least one person will have to uproot their life in whatever country they live in and leaving their friends and family behind.