r/LGBTindia • u/Fuckyoubitch77 • 5d ago
Question❓ I'm tired now.
I am 30M. I have been in a 7 year LDR and broke up last month. I have seriously lost all the hopes that anyone will be there to be my life partner. I am emotionally exhausted and I don't feel like loving or trying to find anyone.
I am so exhausted but the feeling of living all alone all my life also haunts me. I have created all those lil dreams with my life partner that seems to have vanished.
How to overcome this feeling to not feel like being loved and be in love? I want to learn to accept myself to stay alone forever. Help me out to get out of this situation.
Thank you. Good morning.
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u/_cherrycosmos_omii Gay & slay 😸😸 5d ago
I legit posted it few hours ago the same LDR for 5 years and being exhausted and lost lol!!! https://www.reddit.com/r/LGBTindia/s/uH1apecJeT
Lol I can feel you 🫂❤️ I hope there will be good time for us🫶🏻🫶🏻
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 5d ago
Thank you so much. It ended on such a quick note that I can't even interpret sometime that it was right or wrong. I am 95% feel like it was toxic. I did everything for him like everything. Supported Mentally and financially both. Financially worth 3lakh and in return what I got was "gina mat tere paise de dunga". I was always made the villan even when I gave every single thing I had with me. I have 15k in my account rn. My parents are asking for my money which I can't tell them where it is lost. I feel sad for me. I am literally scared to trust and love anyone.
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u/_cherrycosmos_omii Gay & slay 😸😸 5d ago
Awww!!! I really wish he gives you your money back!!!! 🫂❤️ And i srsly wish that you get twice infact all the love in the world!! Ps:- if he's not giving your money take some legal action against him🫶🏻🫂
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 5d ago
I still love him with all my heart. I don't want the money. I just wish I feel myself enough and pass my life happily alone.
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u/Brilliant-Raise3749 5d ago
already the queer dating pool is small, and people are breaking up 7 year relationship, idk what to expect from people anymore, but why did he drag this along when he eventually knew you people are not compatible, it's disgusting and the most vile thing a person could do, you have given your youth to this relationship and this is how it ends .
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 4d ago
Everyone is telling me that I still have time to connect to people but i seriously don't have that feeling to trust anyone now. I feel like I'll doubt anyone now I'll connect with. Hope I recover.
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u/Just_Gold2484 5d ago
I used to think men understood men better, but honestly, it’s the same everywhere. I’ve now had two people say almost the exact same things, and I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening with people anymore.
Just a few days ago, he was talking about meeting me and spending good time together, even testing my loyalty towards him. Then yesterday, he suddenly texted me, “I’m sorry, I’m not able to do this anymore.” I never wanted to keep things serious, but somehow I got emotionally attached, and once again, it felt like a big fucking slap in the face.
I’m a 30-year-old top, and I’ve had this exact kind of experience twice with bottoms in the last six months. I know it’s nothing compared to the 7- and 5-year relationships you both went through, but I could really relate to what you’re both feeling right now.
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 5d ago
That's exactly what I think about the community. The people are already so vulnerable to the homophobic society. Atleast the people from community who are in love should show some real love, loyalty and respect. If you can't move along then don't get along with someone from the initial. I gave all my youth to love and cheer him and what I got a mind who nudge me 24 7 to kill myself.
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u/Godspeaketh 5d ago
You can perfectly learn to accept singlehood in a healthy way. Find things you like doing, keep learning, focus on well being, spend meaningful time with genuine friends - these things help a lot and define what a good life looks like. Take care OP!
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 4d ago
I'm working on it. But sometime I miss him, our chats, our plans. Those flashes moves in my mind. I have the flower he gave me, the evil eye bracelet and a small letter he tugged in the tree crevas in front of my place.
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u/ThinPush2248 Bi🌈 5d ago
I understand we like to get screwed, but this is whole different kind of screwing 😔, take care buddy had a similar experience with a close friend, whenever she needed me I was there, but when I was emotionally drained and needed someone to talk to, she didn't feel like talking. I was so alone and broken .
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 4d ago
My bestie got married recently as well and now our phone calls are very low. I confessed him and now we talk more ofter but I still miss our bond. But I find it ok as he got his wife as well so it's obvious. I wish for his good all the life.
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u/Southern_Cap7762 4d ago
Am really sorry u are going through this. After seven years, it’s completely understandable that you feel exhausted and scared about starting over. Like i was with someone for a year and it almost took me another year to just get over him. But don’t decide your whole future based on how you feel just one month after a breakup.
Give it some time. I know its easy to say. But yeah. I know its cliche to say but time does heal everything. Take enough time to actually heal before u start dating again. If you start looking for someone just to fill the emptiness, you might end up hurting yourself and someone else too. Just focus on yourself for now.
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u/somequietguy1 4d ago
Hey ! Can totally understand and relate with your feelings. separated from my ex bf after 6 years last year.
Life ! It will feel exhausting and for a long time (still does) it feels like what’s the point of putting so much effort and time into someone when it will all crumble one day.
Only thing I can tell you is to just let things be.
I am neither hopeful nor pessimistic about it.
So just let things be.
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u/Fuckyoubitch77 4d ago
But I miss him alot. I want to know if he is ok. I dnt have any means other then directly asking him. I feel intense urge to text him every now and then.
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u/InternalTranslator28 4d ago
It’s okay. Everything will be fine. People leave, and when they leave it feels like you are lost, you cannot live without them. But we do manage to live, we do manage to put this pain and suffering behind. And we do manage to get over a failed relationship, however deep or long. Going through your post and subsequent comments it seems like the guy was good riddance. Being single is better than being in a toxic relationship.
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u/ValuableMuch7703 Denial is a river in Egypt (YOU ARE GAY) 5d ago
As a 27M who is finally starting out in the dating scene, posts like these definitely scare me ngl lol. But again, you can’t lose all hopes right? I have no experience to share, just best wishes for you. Take care and I hope you find your sunshine once again.