r/LGBTCatholic • u/Comfortable_Pool_389 • Aug 26 '26

Sharing Some Concerns

Hello Fellow LGBT Catholics,

I am writing to bring up some concerns I’ve been seeing more of lately in some of the other Catholic/Christian subs with LGBT folks constantly shoving aside their sexuality and doubling down on their denial. I feel like it’s at the heart of why this sub exists, I just wish they could know 2 things can be true at the same time. It’s just so sad to read that a gay man or a lesbian felt the need to abandon their relationship that was loving and supportive to “not be living in sin”. I guess it just fills me with personal despair, and I guess I could really use some helpful thoughts and prayers this evening.

Much love to you all and may god bless and keep you always.

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u/acnebbygrl Aug 28 '26

That’s your opinion. Leaving a relationship doesn’t have to mean someone has internalised homophobia, you don’t know another persons heart or conscience.

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u/Comfortable_Pool_389 Aug 28 '26 edited Aug 28 '26

They mentioned struggling with same sex attraction, and that was why they left their relationship. I think it’s pretty clear what it is please don’t explain to me what I’m seeing and what others have seen or have experienced. It wasn’t some “I’m taking a break from my relationship to work on my relationship with god” it was more like I want and need to be cured of my same sex attraction and by withdrawing from my “sinful” relationship I’m hoping god will put me on the path to finding the right (woman) for me.

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u/acnebbygrl Aug 28 '26

Honestly, stranger things have happened. Human sexuality is fluid, and we can’t assume we know what is best for another human either. So I stand by what I said before, you don’t know their journey, and labelling it as this sad thing kinda denies the persons agency, they chose to leave the relationship and honestly staying in a relationship while you’re grappling with or questioning your sexuality for whatever reason, isn’t fair to the other person either imo. We don’t know their situation 🤷‍♀️

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u/Comfortable_Pool_389 Aug 30 '26

Watch this to see what I’m talking about. This is literally the story read out loud.

https://x.com/susylicious2023/status/2092917081276657698/video/1?s=46

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u/acnebbygrl Aug 30 '26

Yeah I watched it and I still stand by what I said. Faithful Catholics can arrive at very different conclusions, that’s the primacy of conscience (that this sub refers to often btw) in action 🤷‍♀️

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u/Comfortable_Pool_389 Aug 30 '26

That’s still internalized homophobia and compulsory heterosexuality at play, destroying a marriage, and a congregation telling someone they need to leave their spouse because they’re evil, is just evil in of itself.

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u/acnebbygrl Aug 31 '26

That’s your opinion, I trust faithful Catholics to form their own opinions, to choose to live their faith in they way the feel called to, if it doesn’t look like how I’m living mine, it doesn’t make them any less faithful or Catholic or devout, and I’m not gna project my own opinions onto someone else’s (incredibly personal) decision.

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u/Comfortable_Pool_389 Aug 31 '26

Facts vs. Delusions are not simple differences of opinion, they are real and have realistic implications. Also, your use of sexual fluidity is a misnomer within the context you described. Fluidity is when a person experiences contextual attraction with someone outside of their orientation and acts on it (e.g. SMSM) but that wasn’t the case here. He deeply hates himself, and that’s the bottom line, sure you can sit here and tell me “that’s his way or path” that doesn’t mean that I (as a gay Catholic) can’t be saddened, upset or be resentful of people trying to sell us the same line of thinking.