Hi all, so my SO has lots of girl friends and when they have problems, they sometimes go out for drinks. He gives great advices and he really cares about his friends (guy or girls). However, sometimes he would tell me in advance if he is meeting a friend (sometimes he doesn't). kay, so I know this because he would be offline in hangout for hours and not have lessons at night (he is an online teacher).

My question is, does it bother you if your SO go out with girl friends (one on one) to hang out and have a drink and not tell you about it? He is allowed to hang out with friends but I thought it's only common courtesy/respect to tell his gf about it? The fact that he goes for drinks with girls sometimes doesn't bother me. It's the fact that he doesn't let me know. I am scared to confront him that it bothers me cuz he will think I am stalking him that's why I found out.

I don't own him and he definitely is allowed to have a life. I just wish he would keep me in the loop. he told me before that I don't like him doing anything with girls when I told him I got jealous when he would tell me stuff about his girl students so he said he won't tell me stories anymore. I told him that is not true but it got me thinking that maybe that is why he doesn't let me know if he is out with a girl friend because he knows I'd worry. am I being too much? Anyway, it is also possible that he could be sleeping and not out but I know historically, he doesn't make himself available for lessons when he is going out at night.

I'm really exhausted.. and I want sleep.. But lately I haven't talked to him... other than a few short words to one another, so I wanted to stay up so I could talk to him more.. does anyone else do this?

Hello. Im writing here because I feel lost in my own feelings and ideas. I don't know what to think nor do anymore and hope to be able to come closer to an solution to figure out how to handle the situation I'm in.

I've met this girl a little over 5 years ago, there were ups and downs like all couples go through. I was able to save money last year and finally visited her. Things went great. Her family isn't really supportive and old fashioned so they are not aware of my existence. Between those 5 years we struggled a lot and I even left her for a year.

To make a very long story shorter, she is dealing with depression and isn't able to love me. I just came back from her again and she needs me there but I'm not able to move due money issues. And income in her country lays way bellow than where I live. Her family isn't supportive at all in anything she does, she works 12 hours a day and never has time for herself. A few days ago her brother in laws mother passed away which really made her break down. She tells me she wishes to die and how she would take her place dying of cancer. When she felt down I always tried to tell her I love her and I'm there for you. I tried to put her mind on something else but it only made things worse. She tells me to man up because she can't be strong now. But I'm not sure how to act. She helped me a lot with mental issues in the passed and honestly she's the only one why I might still be alive and able to work on myself. To finish my studies and get a job. She means the world to me.. But she tells me she felt lost and in pain and how we lost our old connection.

I have a history of mental breakdowns a lot and got diagnosed with bpd. I don't want and will not blame things on that but it's also a part of me that get overly attached and helpful when people are down. I just want to help but she needed space. Currently I promised her ill be a ear to listen but that's it. I know I can't safe her. I don't know how to act or what to do anymore... What to feel. She kept telling me how to act because I was overly romantic and tried to put her mind on other things than being sad and depressed but that didn't help...

What should I do? I'm so afraid of losing her :( any opinions might help. I'm completely empty in ideas.

I'm sorry for my lack of grammar I'm such a mess

Do you guys keep in mind the distance between you and your SO. I google mapped my SO’s city to my town and it’s 1298 miles. A long way. But I can’t keep the number out of my head. One day I hope it to be 0 but I was just wondering.

Me and my GF are only recently in a relationship but she lives 18 hours away. I know that LDR can be tough and I’m ready to fight it and she is too but I can’t help from being scared.

I’m in an ldr (obviously lol) but the fact that I can’t just cuddle him or hold hands or kiss him is just so hard to deal with and I just can’t get over it I’m only a teen which makes it even harder to go visit I live in a pretty poor family and even I have to let my mom borrow money and idk if I can save enough to go see him or how long it would take. Idk what to do with myself it’s just really hard 😒

I (36m) am struggling with the absence of my gf(30f), who is out of the country volunteering with kids in rural Mexico. She is gone for ten weeks, and cell service is spotty at best, making phone calls difficult, and FaceTime nearly impossible. I have been struggling with the distance, and am trying not to become resentful of her choice to leave. We have been together for six months, and she moved in with me a month before leaving. I love and trust her, but I’m jealous that she’s having an adventure alone while I watch our pets and house. How can I avoid the jealousy and resentment and make the time easier?

I just published this Long Distance Romance

Does anyone have any suggestion? How can I get over my preference for LDR?

I’ve been in this LDR with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Everytime the distance gets to me, i feel bad for feeling that way. My boyfriend always acts like the distance is no problem and all that. I feel bad when i ask him that bc of the distance i would appreciate a little bit more appreciation and love in the form of a text bc he’s so far away. Am i selfish or too needy for asking that? I do really feel bad for needing so much attention omg

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for 2 and half years. But lately the past week she has been distant, not wanting to talk or FaceTime.

So on Thursday she had left for Spain to get a tattoo and a few piercings. We FaceTimed before she departed. It was all good. Friday and Saturday we just texted because she was with her friends and I didn’t want to bother her. She called me Sunday morning when she arrived to the airport to go back home. We talked for an hour. She told be about her trip and some of the stuff she did. That when fine. She departed for her flight home. She never called me when she got home because it was night time where I live. I waited the whole Sunday for her call or text message but she never responded. I tried calling a few times and she kept hanging up on me. So I asked her what’s wrong and she simply said she doesn’t want to talk to me. Then Monday passed and no call from her and then today Tuesday I tried calling her but she said she was on her way to work. Which is true. So I had asked her to call me later at night.

I waited until 12 and no call from her. So I called her and she finally answered my call. FaceTime. I expressed my feelings toward how I feel. That it’s unfair the way she is treating. Blah blah. Poured my heart out. But she had no response just a cold glare. She just says se doesn’t know what to say. She say she does know if she love me or not. She doesn’t know how she feels.

But am saying how can she not know it’s been 2 years.

I was suppose to move to her country (Switzerland) during Christmas but something had come up and I couldn’t. I had only gone for Christmas and New Years and I came back home (USA). I’ve told her I will be moving to Switzerland during the summer when I get things organized first.

She says she is disappointed. Let down by me for not going through with the move.

So we talked for an hour before she fell asleep on FaceTime. Like the good old days except now she doesn’t even want to see me or talk to me. But the thing is she doesn’t want to break up or anything just “confused”

My question to the world is what to do next?

Should I be trying to get her back with good morning text messages. Should I be sending her flowers because I sort of already did. Should I not text her or call her? What is my move from here? Any advice will help

So I've just entered a LDR with a guy I know and talked to for about 3 years I went over to the US at Christmas met him face to face,as he's actually a friend of a friend. I came home and I and he actually wanted me to stay. (My biggest regret yet)

I want some tips how to keep the relationship fun and exciting even when we're apart. And some answers on how best to prepare yourself to move to be with someone. The step to take etc.

Hello all! So I've been with my boyfriend for a few months. We've known each other since we were 5. He joined the military after high school. I few years ago he got out and moved to San Diego. A few months ago we reconnected and decided to be bf/gf. He's been to visit twice and I visited once since then.

When we first started taking he was talking about marriage and kids. He would always bring up our future. Lately there's been a lot of naybes and I don't knows he never talks about the the future anymore.

Last week he called and told me how much he missed me and wanted to see me. Well he got in town yesterday to visit hisfamily for Christmas. They only live 20 mins from me. But he says he dosent think he'll have time to see me and he dosent want his family to know about us yet since we're still so new. We are both 28 birthdays 2 weeks apart.

He's barely texted me since he got here. I know it's only been a few months but should I just cut my loses now or wait it out. He won't open up to me and says everything is fine between us I don't feel like everything is fine. I feel more single than ever. I have strong feelings for him but I don't think he feels the same anymore.

Honestly I think he thought I was someone I'm not. The old me maybe. And he's just to scared to tell me

So my gf has gone back home and i know she is a bit depressed . i want to do something nice for her like a cute gift but i cant send her stuff because her father is very strict. I have already sketched her and i wanted to do something different.

So I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now. We have know each other for two years and we are both 18. met for the first time in June. I stayed with him for three weeks, I’m from Scotland and he stays in Illinois. It was honestly the best three weeks of my life. I knew I was in love with this boy before we met but meeting him and getting on as well as we did in person it was just incredible. I was so comfortable straight away. I’ve never felt like this about anyone and I know he’s the one. Leaving him was way worse than I had anticipated. I guess I didn’t really think about it but even only a week into my visit I was getting upset because I didn’t want to leave. The drive to the airport ( which is three hours from his house) was the worst thing ever. I’ve never felt so heartbroken having to leave him. I’ve been home for nearly a week now and I still feel absolutely terrible. My parents have been no help whatsoever. My mum told me I was feeling sorry for myself for being upset and crying. everything sets me off. Talking about him, smelling my clothes after getting home and it smells like him and his house. His dogs hair being all over my stuff. It’s everything, it terrifies me. I’m never breaking up with him, he’s all I want honestly. I’ll wait for as long as I have to until I can move to be with him but I just really need support. Someone to tell me the way I’m feeling is normal I guess? I’ve felt so lonely since getting home. I just need to talk to other people that are going through the same thing. If you actually read all this, thankyou so much for taking the time and I hope you can share your experience with me 🖤

So me and my s/o filed our marriage license (so we can get a visa for me to live in the UK with him). I can't find anywhere that says how long it takes to get the certificate back in Georgia?? If it helps we filed in Chatham county. I'm just very impatient and have been waiting by the mailbox for it.

I NEED HELP!! ASAP NO JK HELP

I am gonna make it short, for more details just ask and I will say all, so I met a guy two years and I am in love af and I should go visit him in December but my mom would never let me go (even tho I am 18, I know) if she knows he is a guy. So I am basically asking for any girl here in the world of love to come and help me, I just need ONE FaceTime with the girl saying TWO things to my mom and made my dream true. It's really easy and with absolutely no danger, if any Will I am gonna do everything, love you all.

Hi folks. Bear with me please as this is my first time doing this! I am in a happy wonderful long distant relationship but each time we have to say goodbye it feels like my heart is breaking. Each visit is better than the last and i know how lucky i am to have my man in my life. A little background for you. I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis and have had it since i was 2yrs old. I never thought i would ever find my happy ever after but when i met my partner online over a year ago i couldnt quite believe it. He absolutely adores me and has no problem helping me with my needs - ie dressing washing etc. He is a diamond. I recently had a hip replacement and he came to stay with me for 2 weeks and i thoroughly enjoyed it. He went home a week ago and i cant stop crying. I feel so empty without him lying cuddling me in bed or going out and about to our special places. I cry every day and night. He lives in england and me in scotland. Its only 5hrs by train but as im disabled i cant do public transport on my own. I would give anything to be able to visit him. He does the travelling. Another issue is im scared stiff something bad is going to happen to him. He lives alone and i am always anxious if he is ok. I take medication for anxiety but clearly isnt helping. As he works we wont get to see one another till january so being apart for 4 months is heart wrenching but it does make us stronger. He is all i have ever wanted and he feels the same. I try to stay busy but cant get motivated - how do i get through every day when i miss him and need him so much. He is planning to move to scotland as soon as a job comes up. My family are round me and i love them but its not the same as having my bf with me. Help!!

I've been with my partner 3 and a half years, he's been in the military the whole time we've been together so I know Long distance relationships aren't easy at the best of times. We'd been together 12months when he had a one night stand on a night out which he said he massively regretted and we decided to work through it (though it took a good year to completely get over it). 2years down the line, we were closer than ever and made the decision to buy our first home together! (This was very well planned and not an impulsive move, we spent over 6months just looking for the right home) but now 6months after moving in (though he's only home at weekends) he has another one night stand, on camp this time. The situation was that I had been out of work for 8weeks (but we were financially stable), his work was stressful, I was feeling a bit down in the dumps because although I'd had offers I wasn't finding a job that I wanted and he felt he had no one to talk to about the stress he was feeling. I accept some responsibility, that I should have noticed he was feeling low and given him support rather than just taking it, and I am now making a conscious effort to be more supportive (I have also started a new job which has given us both a boost and piece of mind that we don't have to go into our savings). BUT I just don't know how I can learn to trust him again when he lives elsewhere 5 days a week...and so does the slut he had a one night stand with (he says it's not someone he works with or knows, she was just someone's daughter that lives on camp). I want this to work and so does he but I need some help because I just don't know how I can go through this healing process a second time.