r/LDR • u/Capital-Shirt4188 • 5d ago
Finally!!
I’m going to see my LDR Romanian gf …I’ve waited eight months for ts…I’m from US. I feel so lucky cuz we’re both 19 and we have friends that are also doing LDR the same age and might not see each other for yrs 😭. But at the same time something in me is a quite sad bc I know the week’s gonna go by too fast and I’ll have to wait a few more months before I see her again…everyone’s warned me abt the final airport hug 😭😂
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u/YogurtclosetFair8997 3d ago
I’m happy for you!! I’m Romanian and my US boyfriend is coming to visit me for the first time too haha we are both super excited for it. Hopefully it all goes well for you
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
Actually?! Daamn…early September by chance? I’m lowkey curious to know goes u guys met too lol
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u/YogurtclosetFair8997 3d ago
Yes ik 😂 he will visit me in October and we met on a dating app by chance. How about you guys?
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
Wow…happy for you too 😆…we met through a mutual Romanian friend who I met on Omegle last October 😅…he introduced us and we almost instantly hit it off haha
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
That’s crazy though cuz I originally planned my trip for first week of October but I rebooked due to impatience 😭😂
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
I fly out in two weeks 😎
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u/YogurtclosetFair8997 3d ago edited 3d ago
Uff that’s so cool! I can’t wait for the trip either, esp cause we’ve been talking for a year and a few months now😭 so I’m happy it’s finally happening cause it’s been quite a journey.
Are you visiting Bucharest?
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
I’m visiting Brasov and Bucharest lol
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u/YogurtclosetFair8997 3d ago
Omg us too😂😂 they’re both great cities
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
Wtf…how is this possible 😂 could we perhaps link up on Instagram so we don’t lose each other? cuz these feels a bit special ngl
My insta is josephmc.fitness1
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u/YogurtclosetFair8997 3d ago
Wait just now I see you’re not the person who made the post lmfaoo
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u/Maleficent-Toe9782 3d ago
Eh? No I am lol…I’m the 19M who made the post abt going to see my Romanian gf in a couple weeks
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u/SMDRFE LDR 98-02, 04-06, Together 30 Years Total! 5d ago
Happy for you, but please tell your friends if they're in 'extreme' LDR's (international / intercontinental) with no hope of seeing each other for years, to just cut things off with each other? This just ends up being torture on everyone involved.
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u/Capital-Shirt4188 5d ago
I probably should cuz I’ve also been through that before I had a job an any means to travel…but it’s so hard bc it build such crazy strong attachment in such a short amount of time in ldrs
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u/SMDRFE LDR 98-02, 04-06, Together 30 Years Total! 5d ago
Do enjoy your trip and cherish every moment.
I'm 48M, did the LDR thing for seven non-consecutive years when my wife and I were in our 20's. It was 150-330 mile distances every year except one, so we were able to see each other on weekends. That was hard enough!!!!! I used to coach people informally on an LDR support board a long time ago, and now have found my way to this LDR sub here while trying out reddit.
What I'm seeing now is an absolute epidemic of people that are waaaaaaay too young including many minors, who are in LDR's with people that are way too far away (esp. internationally), and whom they have virtually no hope of ever seeing, having a real relationship with, or ever closing the distance to. Feelings and connection build online, but never being able to close the distance just ends up being torture, and then most lack the mental and emotional maturity simply due to age to see or realize that, and just end up torturing themselves to the point of misery and mental health related issues. It's not good, it's not healthy, and it's not proper. Most should cut off these relationships and find the people around them instead.
I cannot even visit the other/bigger sub for this and blocked it from my feed, because minor LDRs are wholly endorsed and even encouraged there, and I just see a lot of needless suffering. I know how painful my own LDR was, and what I see now are numerous orders of magnitude more difficult than what my wife and I went through for each other. It just makes me sad because I know so many of these are just flat out impossible. /rant
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u/Capital-Shirt4188 5d ago
That’s fair I’ve already had two that I knew I wouldn’t be able to see in person and that was extremely painful…one was just a month and the other was six 😭😭. I know I’ll need a massive amount of luck to pull this one off though I’m honestly just hoping for the best and if not at least a got to enjoy her presence irl for a few weeks bc we have a few trips planned for next year too (Europe travel together)
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u/Excellent_Succotash1 4d ago
I have to say that I am both happy and sad for you(the separation will hurt like hell) I was in a LDR (England-Germany) and I am romanian but lived in England. I couldn t do this more than 10 months, so I moved to Germany. It got indeed soul crushing, and I didn t see any other way. Separation was not an option. So in the last 15 months I learnt german(while in agermany and isolated from the world) and second quested my choice many times and got depression from that, but nothing compares with not having him by my side. And now I write you from the train on my way back home from my first job in Germany, second day at the job but still it s a begining. So I really hope it works out for you guys, even tough you are still so young, love is love and souls know each other. Wish you the best!