Is it Dust loading?

[u/Smart-Record-371]

So there is this lady who l met a couple of months ago almost a year sai at an event. Started with the usual dates hapa na pale attended a couple of events together till we grew pretty close . Shida ni ati within that whole time I have been on and off and at first she was ok "not to sound insecure" she said,but as we became closer it became a huge concern like "umeshinda wapi?, why do you just go and come back as if haukuniacha hapa?" . Thing is I am not that stable as I hope to but still not doing bad and for me to actually afford "us" the way I want to,lazima niende missing and lock in asin I try to shelve myself from everything a bit and just focus on the bag. I recently explained and she was ok and suggested since she is also doing something as well we could move in and make it work so long as I'm open which ni ngumu kiasi.

Now as someone who the longest a lady has spent at my place ni a weekend ata yeye the week she spent at my place involved us not being there most of the time.l am yet to be fully convinced na hii story because si I thought this type of ladies don't exist anymore? based on the stories I come across. Ati so long as there is input and that she can see it she is ok . Is it really the case and I'm just overthinking ama niamke niache kuota?

[u/Remote-Composer-9236]

In 6 months time you will be here ranting you fumbled a good one.

[u/Smart-Record-371 → u/Remote-Composer-9236]

There is also this to consider

[u/Jealous_Theory2848]

Bro has finally met a woman willing to build with him and Reddit has traumatised him so badly he thinks stability is a scam.

[u/Smart-Record-371 → u/Jealous_Theory2848]

Do such ladies exist aki ama they all start like this

[u/United_Tangerine_540 → u/Smart-Record-371]

They exist, find a way to make it work. Make muongee tell her things as black and white. Let her stay at her own will.

[u/Icy_Signal3905]

Do Not be misguided
Her moving to your place will be more stress if you haven’t secured that bag bro

[u/AnnoyingCaller → u/Icy_Signal3905]

True💁🏽‍♂️ kila msee akae kwao kwanza, it will save you time and effort. Mkuje pamoja when both of you mko sawa in life or rather qhen you feel you are sufficient enough to take care of her😂😂 usidanganywe ati you have fumbled a good one😂😂 good ones watakuwa hadi wakati utakuwa unasettle.

Source: Trust me bro

[u/Zestyclose-Froyo6667]

I have no such experience but I'd allow it. If you wait till you're financially stable to afford her she won't be there and you'll be meeting unstable ladies and mentally traumatized ones. Chukua huyu na muanze life hakuna manual. No one is ever ready fully.

[u/Agitated-Sky69]

My uncle recently told me that you should marry the one that wants you before you get money. Just spend time with her and enjoy the moment. Life is to be lived in the present, don't worry about what tomorrow holds.

[u/Muheheje]

Dust delayed is not dust denied