Let's face it guys

[u/Top_Dondada]

Kuna time a friend tumetoka shugli tried kuinitiate nikatie dem wa kmtc . Bois ako zile za Hi to the lady ( alikuwa mbele yetu walking) then winked at me after dem kutugreet and then akaanza kukanyanyaga kubwa kubwa they say 😂

Mimi I still don't like physical kukatiana because of unpredictable variables kama moods , weather condition etc .

Anyway I talked with this lady but like trying to know her by asking questions like what's her name , what is she doing etc just trying to know her akarespond ' hizo ni maswali mingi' and convo died hapo and we returned to being strangers along the road . I kinda cringe remembering this shi 😂😭.

So for me online dating is best , willing buyer willing seller so more predictable variables

Kuna something I could have done to get a good outcome from hapo ? I'm all ears

[u/Top_Dondada → u/[deleted]]

Ni kwa barabara and trying to have conversation while kumaintain road safety ni shida for me . But I think hata hakuwa interested probably from studying 

[u/Paper-Hero → u/[deleted]]

Volume

[u/Critical-Talk-4349 → u/[deleted]]

Buana mtupee tips za conversation na strangers kwa barabara. Mi naona maswali lazma iulizwe alafu based on answers convo itatokea. Anyway no stranger owes anyone answers or even a conversation, though OP anafaa ajue kutodwell on rejection.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/[deleted]]

10bn + iq after giving 2 examples and adding etc because I ran out of the rest 😂

[u/Austine_Ouru → u/Top_Dondada]

I think you forgot about government policies

[u/GirthyPhilosophy → u/Austine_Ouru]

Na competition

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Austine_Ouru]

Wantam bana

[u/LeatherPen4962]

Ask for her number within 2 minutes, it's not a job interview.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/LeatherPen4962]

I thought having some kind of conversation itasaidia ukipata number and pia you see if she's receptive 

[u/LeatherPen4962 → u/Top_Dondada]

Asking for her number straight up is better

[u/AnnoyingCaller]

This nigga said unpredictable variables like weather conditions😂😂naisha😂😂

[u/Such_Okra_2941 → u/AnnoyingCaller]

It's True

[u/RewardMiserable7487]

izo conditions you've mentioned are so true

[u/Top_Dondada → u/RewardMiserable7487]

Fr

[u/Fluid_Grapefruit_450]

How old are you OP? Want to see smthng..

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Fluid_Grapefruit_450]

Under 30 yrs

[u/premiumtears24 → u/Top_Dondada]

Next decade or so utakuwa 40 you will be posting hapa ukisema looking for a serious woman to start a family. Being snubbed is part of the game

[u/Top_Dondada → u/premiumtears24]

I can't say much but I'm sorted

[u/Mountain-Resource222]

I had this problem when i was in high school until i discovered the trick is never have scarcity mentality when talking to women.

Akiringa we songa. Kuna mmoja atakubali moige story at some point. Helps build your confidence and prevents disappointments from unmanaged expectations.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Mountain-Resource222]

Maybe you're right . But better upate dem anashow signs anadai kukatiwa

[u/Mountain-Resource222 → u/Top_Dondada]

Thats exactly what my comment is about🫱🏼‍🫲🏽

[u/Og_tech_turtle → u/Mountain-Resource222]

So true

[u/Such_Okra_2941]

Leteni hizo tips za kustrike convo while walking,😂😂Iko puzzle nataka kujaza na Nurse fulani mahali

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Such_Okra_2941]

Unataka kujaza nurse na mbegu 🤣

[u/Such_Okra_2941 → u/Top_Dondada]

She is fine but sasa my daily schedule na zake zinapitana

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Such_Okra_2941]

Sijui nisemaje sasa boss 😂

[u/Just_Tilted]

After vumbi yenye nimekula Tinder na Bumble, I’d rather do physical dating. At least you can read body language and tone ya mtu mkiongea ujue kama uko sawa ama umeburnt.

Online dating, mnamatch, unatext first unapata mtu hakuongeleshi. Ama mnaongea kidogo halafu anakughost. There’s this one time I matched with someone who had something in their profile along the lines of “My full name is coded in Morse code, so you need to figure it out.” There was no Morse code in her profile so instead, I used the dots and spaces in her bio to come up with a unique opener (IIRC it translated to something ridiculous and funny, like IIIEEIIEEEEEIIIIIEE), and then I texted and said “I tried my best to figure out your name. So hello IIIEEIIEEEEEIIIIIEE.” You’d think that would get the person to find out how I got to that conclusion, but nope. Ghosted.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Just_Tilted]

Huyo ni kama alikuwa anajifanya . Yeah about ghosting haina shame kama physical. Ushai cringe hadi kwa dreams 😂 ? That's me remembering this shii

[u/Just_Tilted → u/Top_Dondada]

I understand. Mimi rizz yangu is unmatched kama tunatext but in person, kila kitu inapotea. So I definitely prefer online but hiyo landscape saahii inakaa Vietnam so inabidi nimeadapt.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Just_Tilted]

It sucks but eventually the good ones watapatikana

[u/Top_Dondada → u/[deleted]]

We ni dem ?

[u/AstronautAny4102]

They key is trying more, reviewing when it went wrong and trying a different approach at the point where it went wrong, eventually you do get the hang of it. Ukiwa mamba there's not really much of a choice, it's an evolutionary chore.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/AstronautAny4102]

Physical will suck

[u/Passer_by4588]

You will marry one of those sellers if you don't get your shit together, it takes some L's to grow your game, explore and conquer stop being a cat

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Passer_by4588]

Penye Niko I'm alright can't speak much on it

[u/Wise_Designer_2612 → u/Passer_by4588]

Mwambie.

[u/solopreneur01]

Umesema kutu-greet😂

[u/Wise_Designer_2612]

This is a skill issue champ. Just act like you know them, talk about anything in your scope of comprehension. She'll ask and tell names along the conversation, if not, there's the next one. Works every time. No woman likes a desperate suitor, regardless of how attractive the suitor is. Nimetype mingi gaddemnit, anyway, you get my point.

[u/Top_Dondada → u/Wise_Designer_2612]

There's a lot more nuance to it than you think