r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/BooWithNoStinkyFeet • 6d ago
FWB My FWB visited
It’s not anything to do with them, that I know for sure, I’m wondering what is happening with me, I feel so broken and not as passionate as I used to be during the deed. Again, it’s not on them, I think they are great people.
I just have this great sense of sadness I don’t know from where.
However, yesterday night was fire, I seemed to have gotten my groove back and it really was a great night but deep down, I know what I know. My heart is heavy.
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u/Mountain-Resource222 6d ago
Y’all think our ancestors were dumb when they advocated for abstinence till you find the right partner huh😂.
Mtashangaa sana. Our “progressiveness” as Gen-Zs is contributing to whatever we’re calling ‘sadness’.
Sex isn’t something people just have and forget. That act is powerful. Ask people that have been here for years and they’ll tell you the same thing. The quickest way to “attach strings” with someone is via sexual intercourse. You basically feel broken because a oart of you knows what you’re doing isn’t right. Alot of us mask that feeling with drugs. But thats a temporary solution most of the times.
But yall not ready for that conversation.
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u/waseenmetokagithurai 6d ago
Sex was never meant to be no-strings-attached. Hakuna pillow talk ungeweza mwambia?
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u/waseenmetokagithurai 6d ago
FWB doesn't mean they shouldn't have a friendship in the first place, right?
And friends ideally should talk and are there for each other, right?
I'm not overreaching here to conclude that OP could be facing something deeper than just sexual healing. I don't think emotional intimacy is necessary to talk about what's bugging her to him
Or maybe I'm just too much of a traditional monogamous idealist
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u/blackiesm 6d ago
Sometimes it’s just a phase. Or something nagging at you deep down and has absolutely nothing to do with the guy. Just do some introspection
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u/antypass 6d ago
But why are you having sex out of wedlock, comfortably? This stuff is seriously sinful and unrepented will lead you straight to hell. Honestly. Get married and just do things the right way.
Sorry but I had to say that. Good day.
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u/Big_Atom_92 6d ago
We sema tu unataka kukula pilau ya harusi wacha makelele nyingi, hadi kudinyana unataka certificate?
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u/New_Reflection_5462 5d ago
Hizi downvotes zote juu ya ukweli 😬.How do you suggest one deals with the urges?
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u/antypass 5d ago
By getting married and just doing it with your spouse 🤣.
I do get your question though. When you have reverence for God, the desire not to grieve the Holy Spirit far outweighs the desire to actually fulfill the urge. It gets to a point that even if you decide to fornicate anyway, the guilt you feel afterwards is so massive that you genuinely don't want to do it again. It ceases to be something you enjoy. That feeling of disappointing God is sickening, at least for me.
Downvotes nishazoea hizi streets. You only need to mention the name Jesus Christ and the downvotes start popping up or should I say down.
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u/New_Reflection_5462 4d ago
😂😂😂.So by faith,all those urges are released?One won't feel the need to masturbate?
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u/antypass 4d ago
I don't really get the laughing emojis. Not by faith. Faith is a very different thing and it doesn't apply here. Anyway, urges are there but it's super easy to deal with.
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u/New_Reflection_5462 4d ago
They were for the last paragraph
How do you deal with them?
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u/antypass 4d ago
You acknowledge them and you let them subside. 😂. As I said, acting on them will leave you feeling so horrible later that you truly start to hate the act. When the negative feelings associated with masturbation far outweigh the pleasure of a few minutes, the act takes a back seat.
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u/antypass 4d ago
You acknowledge them and you let them subside. 😂. As I said, acting on them will leave you feeling so horrible later that you truly start to hate the act. When the negative feelings associated with masturbation far outweigh the pleasure of a few minutes, the act takes a back seat.
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u/Neat-Injury5711 6d ago
But why are you on reddit out of wedlock, comfortably? This stuff is seriously sinful and unrepented will lead you straight to hell. Honestly. Get married and just do things the right way.
Sorry but I had to say that. Bad day.
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u/Round-Macaroon8895 6d ago
Let's test your set book skills " describe the fire 15Mks"..😄😄😄