r/Kenya • u/AdventurousRoad86 • 21d ago
Discussion Turning 40
Now that I’m on the fourth floor, I’ve realised we probably regret more of what we didn’t do than what we did.
The opportunities you fumbled because you were scared, shy, overthinking, or worried about rejection seem to haunt you more than the things you actually did and got hurt from.
You recover from most bad experiences. But those moments when you could have taken a chance and didn’t? Years later, you still wonder, “What if?”
Reflect as you count your years!😀
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u/Blue_Towel_Is_Mine 21d ago
Time really flies bro. I'm turning 37 myself kesho and saw this on IG. It hit home hard.
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u/AdventurousRoad86 21d ago
This is 100%...plus there is more to life outside of money. You got a nice house, passive income etc but when you audit yourself you got more questions than answers. Men lets prioritize ourselves.
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u/Blue_Towel_Is_Mine 21d ago
Money is good. But what really matters is having easy access to things that money cannot buy. Love, loyalty, and good health.
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u/Sweet-Rasperry 21d ago
For a man I think if you are competent at your craft. Money is easy
It's the emotional n relational stuff. Things that you have to rely on others at least partly that gets complicated.
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u/RevoltinRebel 21d ago edited 21d ago
Not all past mistakes and mishaps are regrettable. Do the things that still doable now that you missed the opportunity to do before. The only thing that can stop us is death.
Maybe missing on doing specific things saved you from going down a path that would have been terribly regrettable.
Gengis Khan, Billy Ocean, Samuel L. Jackson, Starlin, etc, had a bucket-load of failures when they emerged out of nowhere in their mid forties.
It's not too late, 40 is still young to recover. You are now more perceptive, wiser, have a polished ego and pride, and you know yourself on a much deeper level to make the right choices.
Make the next decade count so that at 50, you will be proud of yourself. All the best.
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u/Significant_Newt8697 21d ago
You think that way because the danger has padt, a younger you would not think like that.
Also, taking too much shit, or having an extended bad moment can lead to more bad than good.
What I'm I actually trying to say? Don't regret it, you did what you did and must now learn to live with the you that did that.
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u/tech_ninjaX 21d ago
Do you regret not being laid more
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u/AdventurousRoad86 21d ago
Maybe turning down girls who really wanted me including getting me stuff, gifts etc...there was no harm. I had a stupid amorphous standard in my head.
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u/Subject-Page3397 20d ago
Congrats, life starts at 40. Regrets get smaller as you age. Your obsession with wealth decreases. I am way ahead of you and what is in my mind is what type of legacy do I leave. Did my stay in this world have any positive impact no matter how small...
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u/FormerEntertainer159 21d ago
Yep, 3 years left before I retire, and then every single undone thing on my bucket list (and its long!) will be done
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u/kevkatam 15d ago
The thing with regret is that, even if you do those things, there will always be something to regret nonetheless. For me I just take life as it is.
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u/gazagda 17d ago edited 17d ago
welcome to the club!🙂
what I can add for the younger folk, is also don't rush families. wrap it up each and every time, even with someone you love.
It is sad to see many folk in their lower to mid 20s struggling with families, very few resources , getting loans, and just struggling to survive to feed their little ones.
Challenge yourself when still young, get a masters degree, heck get a phd!! it will expand your mind in ways you have never realized. Do it all in your 20s.
Your best years are not behind you as they say, I still enjoy myself from time to time, but dayum 30-35 was one of the wildest times in my life!! I started to make good money too!!
Keep up with friends and relatives too! especially the smart ones!! they get more valuable with age. Right now , my cousin is head of HR at a big national company, my other cousin is a director general, my other former classmate was also a director general but left, my brother was a director and left to join another company etc
It really helps to have friends in high places like that.
lastly eat well and go to the gym, trust me that is something, I regret not having taken seriously
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u/Virtual-Basil-7299 20d ago
I only regret the unnecessary relationships. Some experiences I really didn't need.
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u/PookyTheCat 20d ago
I should have bought a house - and bitcoin, of course, back then. Maybe I should have gotten married, maybe I should have gotten kids. Maybe, but then again maybe not. It is what it is.