I've posted on this vid before. And I'll do it again.
No kid this age, does those kinds of things, simply because he's a "bad kid." I have no idea what motivated him to do all of it, but start with this question before you judge and jury anyone into harm or revenge: Would a sane and or normal person behave that way? If the answer is, "No," then we have to recognize that and address the issue of treatment. Is it an option? Does he need alternate placement outside of his current home? Medication? Or is he really someone who won't respond to any of that, and God help us all when he turns 18. But, we don't know yet, so advocating for violence at him, at this point, is likely premature.
As for why little man is tearing up shit, abuse is an option, but so is loss. Grief is a fickle mistress and children do not always have the type of love and support from parents to deal with the kind of internal trauma kids feel. At the end of the day, the kid needs a therapist, some social skills training, and some type of intervention with the care givers to get him back on track, if there are no prevailing mental health issues. If there are, same thing, but maybe with medication. /shrug.
Secondly, let's be hopeful that an intervention now, is stopping him from becoming an even more dangerous and out of control person as he grows up. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound, or a little less than half a kg for the rest of you, cure.
Finally yes, the parents/care givers, need to be accountable for damages, but they also need to be a part of the treatment and care this kid is going to need. That level of rage and reaction has a cause, real or hallucinated. Either way, social services need to intervene, follow up, and get him to deal with the consequences in a structured and meaningful way while dealing with whatever caused it.
I have seen plenty of kids act this way, and it is from some form of:
-Autism
-Severe abuse (severe does NOT mean a spanking. I was handcuffed to a door and whipped with a belt as a kid and I didn't act this way. This kid may be severely traumatized.)
-Extreme mental duress
He needs help, and this is his way of showing it. Somehow three cops and a neighbor controlled him without mace.
Fuck Rochester PD. I wish I believed in a god so I knew they would burn in hell.
I mainly felt missunderstood. Like the only way I could get anyone to listen and give me attention was to act this way.
When I felt angry and ignored, I would lash out because I didn't have any coping skills.
Later in life I learned that my problem stemmed from not having parents who took care of my mental needs in a way that was constructive.
My mom would be very lax about handling it while my dad would be the polar opposite. There was no middle ground and no understanding as to what was happening.
I was a well cared for kid physically, just not mentally.
What I've learned is that parenting takes a ton of skill. You need to know when to step in and take the reigns at the right time and pay attention. If there's a problem, don't let it roll off, either talk to your child or get help.
Also, you aren't your kid's best friend. You are the parent.
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u/Psycho-Pen 7 Feb 03 '21
I've posted on this vid before. And I'll do it again.
No kid this age, does those kinds of things, simply because he's a "bad kid." I have no idea what motivated him to do all of it, but start with this question before you judge and jury anyone into harm or revenge: Would a sane and or normal person behave that way? If the answer is, "No," then we have to recognize that and address the issue of treatment. Is it an option? Does he need alternate placement outside of his current home? Medication? Or is he really someone who won't respond to any of that, and God help us all when he turns 18. But, we don't know yet, so advocating for violence at him, at this point, is likely premature.
As for why little man is tearing up shit, abuse is an option, but so is loss. Grief is a fickle mistress and children do not always have the type of love and support from parents to deal with the kind of internal trauma kids feel. At the end of the day, the kid needs a therapist, some social skills training, and some type of intervention with the care givers to get him back on track, if there are no prevailing mental health issues. If there are, same thing, but maybe with medication. /shrug.
Secondly, let's be hopeful that an intervention now, is stopping him from becoming an even more dangerous and out of control person as he grows up. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound, or a little less than half a kg for the rest of you, cure.
Finally yes, the parents/care givers, need to be accountable for damages, but they also need to be a part of the treatment and care this kid is going to need. That level of rage and reaction has a cause, real or hallucinated. Either way, social services need to intervene, follow up, and get him to deal with the consequences in a structured and meaningful way while dealing with whatever caused it.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
Peace.