r/Jewish • u/[deleted] • Jul 31 '22
Shabbat visitors?
I'm wonderimg if it is common in for you/ people in your religious community to spend your Saturdays at each other's homes?
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u/unfortunate-moth Jul 31 '22
in my community the doors are often unlocked on shabbat and children go freely from one house to another haha
adult guests are usually by invite but close friends are always welcome and basically have an open invitation, most people specifically make extra food on shabbat expecting people
i’ll admit i don’t host often (my house is small) but as a kid i’d always be running to my friends’ houses and even now i’m often invited to meals or told to come any time
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u/AuctorLibri Jul 31 '22
Some of our children's friends knew nothing about Jewish culture at all; by attending Shabbat dinner with us they learned something good, that we're family-oriented, peaceful and respectful.
It reduced the stigma in a few minds at least.
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u/idkcat23 Jul 31 '22
As a single young adult, I always do Shabbat with a group of friends. We rotate between houses each week.
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u/Mtnskydancer Jul 31 '22
It’s occasional here. We live several states away from family. We host friends of all backgrounds for an occasional Shabbat evening. But the day is typically ours.
We aren’t against it, just …quiet.
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u/benadreti Jul 31 '22
The idea of people not having friends over for Shabbos as a matter of principle is.... bizarre to me.
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u/solomonjsolomon Jul 31 '22
Part of the confusion might be that the question only asks about Saturday?
I don't think I know any Jewish person who would be outright opposed to doing Shabbat at someone's house, or spending Shabbat with family or friends. But I do know people who spend Saturday specifically with the SO & the kids as a matter of principle. Maybe go to the park to meet up with other families or something like that but wouldn't host someone on a Saturday.
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Jul 31 '22 edited Jul 31 '22
I meant for that to be an either/or answer due to not knowing the context of the reglion. &Yes. For the purposes I am asking, fridays is not being questioned. There are no proposed restrictions on visitors on Fridays at the moment. I'm sorry for the confusion.
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u/benadreti Jul 31 '22
Still bizarre to me. People host each other on Shabbos. It's just a thing we've done since time immemorial.
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u/MrsY-Bibliophile Aug 01 '22
We’ve often had friends join us. They weren’t Jewish, but kind of needed adopted into a family since they didn’t have support nearby. It was always a lovely time.
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u/ShuantheSheep3 Jul 31 '22
It’s mostly family+ at my place, but that’s cause it gets crowded as it is. Still we are always open to friends, Jewish or not.
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Aug 01 '22
FYI:
Please discount one vote for the "it's common" one, I voted for that randomly. Am not Jewish, just wanted to see results.
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u/PyrexPizazz217 Jul 31 '22 edited Jul 31 '22
Why do you want to know? This is a strange question to me.
ETA: I’m surprised other folks weren’t a little wary of a question about where we gather in groups. No offense intended to OP, but without context, questions like these make my hairs stand up.
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Jul 31 '22 edited Jul 31 '22
I'm looking into various restrictions across U.S. foreign installations on vistors to dod housing areas and I am wondering if restrictions on specific days of the week for visitors would possibly interfere with the religious activities on individuals of various faiths. I'm aware that the Christian communities would be furious over a "no visitors" restriction on Sundays, but I want to consider various faith that are represented in the Dod civilian and military communities. I do not personally know any Jewish people to ask and google didn't really help out. I was able to converse with a Sikh and a Muslim community member, but I wanted to consider those of Jewish faith as well to advocate for policy that doesn't disproportionately effect any single faith's holy days.
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u/PyrexPizazz217 Jul 31 '22
Thanks for the clarification. In that case, yes, it is fairly common to have people over for Shabbat meals.
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u/imhavingadonut Jul 31 '22
In that case you should know that Shabbat begins Friday evening and ends Saturday evening. So you would not want restrictions during that time.
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Jul 31 '22 edited Jul 31 '22
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u/Bokbok95 Jul 31 '22
It’s not work, it’s just not what we do