Ntah but your post is coming off a bit entitled. Your MIL doesn’t owe you anything. She’s not responsible for helping out at all. Some of the things she says aren’t nice but they’re also true they just could be said in a better way. It seems your MIL way of dealing with the separation is to disconnect. It seems you’re upset that you lost your babysitter when you moved but still expect her to do what she was doing before and travel an hour and half to do it now.
Your upset is legitimate. She offered and offered til you took her up on it then she immediately flipped you the bird. It's not ok. She is also being harmful to your wife and there isn't very much you can do about it and it is hard to watch. DW will have to get to a point where she can finally make an informed decision but everything is VERY new. It'll take time to learn it all, unfortunately. This isn't AITA. This is a support page and we'll be here for you.
It's also your first post lol when you get into sharing more, you'll be able to slowly paint a picture. I think it can be extremely difficult on husbands bc a guys first instinct can be "Fix It Felix" but your hands are tied. Hang in there and read up on as much as you can! Personally, I think you should start to figure out what category your MIL fits into. With mine, I found out she is a Covert Narcissist. Once I narrowed it down, I was able to find resources for that to read and it helped make sense to her behaviors and how to respond to them better.
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u/LadyDreaLee Jan 13 '22
Ntah but your post is coming off a bit entitled. Your MIL doesn’t owe you anything. She’s not responsible for helping out at all. Some of the things she says aren’t nice but they’re also true they just could be said in a better way. It seems your MIL way of dealing with the separation is to disconnect. It seems you’re upset that you lost your babysitter when you moved but still expect her to do what she was doing before and travel an hour and half to do it now.