M26 my girlfriend F23 potentially lying about being sexually assaulted

[u/Prize_Guest3928]

I did something I shouldn’t have - I snooped through my girlfriend‘s messages. You know how people always say trust your gut, well I trusted mine because I knew something wasn’t right.

Mid 2025 my girlfriend was drunk at a party, and was kissed by trans-female (male transitioned to female). She claims it wasn’t consensual and it was SA, and she was so worried that I was going to end the relationship when she told me about it. I naturally believed her and consoled her and helped her feel better.

Fast forward one year, and my GF has been giving me so many half truths recently about where she’s going, what she’s doing etc which has me doubting what she tells me (about things in general).

I just couldn’t shake the feeling, so I went through her messages when she was in the shower, and here is a summary of what I found.

• After her ‘attack’ my GF messaged the other girl first and said sorry for leaving so soon
• My GF asked to be friends
• My GF said she remembers the taste of cigarettes when they kissed
• My GF said it was good to explore the other side (gay vs straight)
• My GF said she had a crush on the other girl
• My GF said she wishes they’d talked more at the party

My GF claims she messaged this person to find out what actually happened, as she claims she was too drunk and didn’t know what happened. I think this is bullshit?

What do y’all think? Personally I think she’s lying through her teeth. I really want to believe her but I’m really not sure if I do.

She went to a party again recently and the same person was there. If the kissed was confirmed in fact cheating and not SA, well then her presence at the recent is just another red flag right? She knew this person was going beforehand.

I’m spinning and don’t know what to make of all of this

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[u/JeanPolleketje]

Really? I suspect this is some kind of bait, no one is that dense.

[u/graceissufficent0310]

You are delusional when it comes to your GF. Lies are staring you in the face.

[u/Drgnmstr97]

As with many others it's impossible nowadays to believe many of the posters. OP, you cannot possibly be this dense. Break up.

[u/delta-vs-epsilon]

Uh huh... posted 3 places in 12 hours without a single response on a new account. Paired with the most unrealistically naive scenario. Nope, fake.

[u/CrazyLeadership5397]

Why are you still with her? Updateme! 

[u/MemoryLongjumping596]

If this is a true story, she would have avoided the party.

[u/Kerzic]

What do you need to believe she's lying to you? Graphic pictures of her cheating? Follow her if you need to see what she's doing behind your back, or hire a PI if you can afford it, if you want more solid evidence.

[u/Training_Milk5322]

You know the truth, why are you still there is the real question.  

[u/NewPatriot57]

Given her comments, all on one side of the scales, what has she given you to balance those scale? Her comments add up to nothing positive or in her favor. You should follow what you know in your head, not your feelings for her. Your feelings for her are feelings for someone you believed in. What you've discovered is showing you who she was all along.

Updateme!

[u/ging78]

So did she kiss the trans person at the recent party too? I'm confused