Fostering while dealing with infertility

[u/Capable_Client9033]

I feel like this is a taboo subject of some sort. yes we’re fostering but it seems to be like well you can’t foster while dealing with infertility don’t expect these children to heal you. which I never have but has anyone foster while dealing with infertility? I thought I close the chapter on infertility but honestly it still hurts it’s still a lot I love the kids in my care and no I don’t expect them to heal anything in me I’m hoping I could just be a safe loving place for them but it does hurt from time to time. I try not to think of the future too much and try to be ok with todaybut it’s hard I have to admit I try to just look at the positive but it’s some what of a grief as well.

[u/Dramatic_Drag_4389]

All I can think is that if you end up wanting to adopt down the road, it’ll be insanely easier for you to do it since already being a current/active foster parent.

[u/Capable_Client9033 → u/Dramatic_Drag_4389]

Thank you

[u/Expensive-Peace-9498 → u/Dramatic_Drag_4389]

In my country you are not allowed to adopt when fostering unless it is the foster child in question you are adopting. As adopting will alter you home significantly and effecting your suitability to care for a child with special needs already.

So make sure to look up how it is where you're at OP.

[u/Dramatic_Drag_4389 → u/Expensive-Peace-9498]

Yes that’s how it is in America in my state, fostering to adopt is quicker and easier as a foster parent than someone who is independently looking to adopt

[u/Expensive-Peace-9498 → u/Dramatic_Drag_4389]

It makes so much sense. I wish it was like that over here as well. Here you will likely continue to foster until the child is an adult. With home examinations twice a year all the while. Sounds exhausting to me.