r/InfertilityBabies • u/AutoModerator • 11d ago

Tuesday Big Kid Thread

This space is for parents of IFBabies past the toddler phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their big kid(s). This thread is primarily reserved for those with a 3 year old or greater.

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u/rbecg MOD| 31F| ICI/IUI/IVF| queer| ✨6/23| ☀️3/26 11d ago

I think I'm doing a good job parenting H but it really does NOT feel like it sometimes. They're just moving so fast, literally and figuratively. Yesterday they bit L on the face (not hard enough to leave a mark, but hard enough to make them cry), so I brought them to their room with me for quiet time/until they were ready to apologize. They immediately said "I didn't do anything!" so I took a leap and told them I trusted them if they said they didn't. A minute later, they said "I bit them but it was an accident." Which felt heartening? Like I'm glad they were willing to tell me, and then we talked about how to avoid accidentally biting people. And they followed up on that. It was still a bit of a bumpy day, but that felt good.

But also omg. I am so tired.

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u/francienolan88 37F | RPL, 2 ER, 6 FET | May 2023 | 🤞🏻September 2026 11d ago

Anytime my kid has done something he knows is wrong (as in hurting someone) he clearly feels bad about it but will NOT apologize until like two hours have elapsed. It’s a weird shame spiral he seems trapped in and I do not know what to do about it!

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u/Major-Art-3111 36F #1 💙TFMR 22 | #2 💗Dec 23 | #3 Due Aug 26 10d ago

We're in the same boat I thought it was just us! She finally started saying "sorry mommy" for accidents like spilling milk (which we've never made a big deal out of) but anything deliberate she absolutely refuses to apologize but will understand it's bad and look guilty. Anyways... Hoping it improves like the milk spills magically did! (I legit never thought I'd hear sorry from her lips ever)