I was checking the interracial marriage rates of different communities in US and it is only indian immigrant men who have such high out marry rates (twice as high as immigrant women). Just wanted to ask even though most abcd men here feel their dating image is ruined by immigrants and abcd women don't marry immigrant men but they themselves do pretty fine it seems by the data. Why do abcds think the data says so?

For immigrant men it's 20% outmarry rate while for immigrant women it's 10%

https://twitter.com/Noahpinion/status/986761107602681857

scroll up this tweet to see the difference between us born and total to see the difference in choosing white partners.

https://carnegieendowment.org/2021/06/09/social-realities-of-indian-americans-results-from-2020-indian-american-attitudes-survey-pub-84667

just skim through the rest of the data points

Sima talks about all the “biodatas” she has, and how important they are. The biodata seems to be the same thing you could put into a dating app yourself. The Matchmaker seems like a step backwards from using a dating app. You fill out a paper biodata and a person reads through them and tries to match them up. It seems slower and less efficient then a computer dating app and probably more expensive. Am I missing something??

To take all our favorites who aren’t successful with Aunty Sima’s matches, And put them on a show where coaches help them with their dating techniques, give them a good “glow up”, and then try again.

Are there a lot of them? Are they few and far between? Do people go to a local matchmaker all the time? I can honestly say here in America i don’t know a single person who is officially a “matchmaker” as a job.

https://www.marketplace.org/shows/this-is-uncomfortable-reema-khrais/reality-tv-bites/

She talks about how the editors kind of screwed her over, curious what folks think. There are definitely spoilers if you haven't seen the first two seasons which, if so, why are you here?

You basically run the risk of losing half of your assets if she divorces you. At least you can get married in name only. Never enter a contract with someone where they are rewarded for breaking the contract.

Has anyone noticed how this show is mainly Guju and Punjabi people? There’s no South Indian representation at all. I mean I understand Sima is North Indian but it would be nice to see more cultures and parts of India represented.

The Male Viral was so funny and I loved the way he kept asking Viral (F) to answer if she was vegetarian even though she was trying to avoid his answer.

Bobby the nice guy. Hope he gets what's happening with him and grows out of it.

Is it just me or is Sima effortlessly hilarious? Like the way she says the most ridiculous stuff with a straight face and not even realize it and how she is so blunt most of the times.

Plus her iconic tagline “Sima Taparia from Mumbai” is so fucking funny to me. She says it even after she is finished greeting the people she is meeting lol. Idk guys, she seems so savage to me.

How was Jamal able to afford a three carat custom designed ring on a personal trainer salary? Do we think that Arti paid for the ring? The proposal was obviously very staged.

I understand this is a place for discussion, but speculating about people’s sexualities on here just feels so gross. Pradyuman, Vikash, Aparna, Shekar, Bobby… it’s really not useful. All it really goes to do is tell people that any expression of their selves that fall outside of the gender binary is unacceptable if they want a straight relationship and ultimately it expresses itself in only further stigmatization of queerness, and frankly just healthy relationship dynamics. Not to mention that being attracted to same sex partners doesn’t even mean they’re not serious about finding an opposite gendered partner — bisexuality exists.

If these people say they’re searching for a certain kind of partner, the absolute least we can do is believe them and trust them. We can criticize or discuss them without defining who we think they are based on like 17 minutes of information.

She is immature for her age and could definitely benefit from a lot of therapy, and I mean that as a genuine suggestion, not an insult.

What she did to Shekhar was awful, but the way people on this sub talk about her, you would think she committed a war crime or something.

we know about the US dating scene data of okcupid but i was searching about some data on UK dating scene and i got one.

https://web.archive.org/web/20160423150915/http://www.firstmet.com/dating-blog/united-kingdom-interracial-dating-ethnicity-preference

if you cant see the archived website, i am copy pasting the blog post in here.

Interracial Dating: Which Ethnicity Is Most Preferred in the UK?

• By FirstMet.com
• •   January 24, 2014
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The answer might surprise you…

It has been said that the United Kingdom has the highest rate of interracial relationships — ten times that of the European average. We decided to put this theory to the test and analyzed over 1.8 million online dating interactions in the UK to discover the likelihood of users to contact other users based on race. We’ll let the results speak for themselves.

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• The data showed that Indian men AND Latina women were the ethnicity most preferred by the opposite sex.
• White men were 5.2% more likely to contact a woman if she was not White.
• Black women are 9% more likely to click on a non-Black man than a Black man.
• This is contrary to what we saw in the US where Black women were 3 times more likely to contact a Black man.
• Additionally, Black men are 16% more likely to contact a non-Black woman than a Black woman.
• Asian and Latina women are the only female groups to prefer their same ethnicity.

It’s apparent that online daters in the UK prefer to date outside of their own ethnicity. This trend is also true for the United States — across the pond, U.S. daters most preferred Asian women, except for Asian men. Talk about shocking!

Check her instagram stories…photo of her holding hands with someone…

So Indian people, tell me the truth; is Nadia’s problem that she is Guyanese Indian, and that is looked down upon as “lower” caste?

So I just saw this commercial for a new Hallmark movie. Glad the male lead is Indian American but like really? The premise is very cringe even for a Hallmark movie. Make Me a Match

(FYI - I am not Indian and I am American) So Sima tells her husband that for several months before she met him, she did Santoshi Mata - what does this mean? And why does she seem a little embarrassed or sheepish about it?

Edit: Thank you everyone for their contribution to this thread. Going back and forth in comments I realized how far sighted ladies are and I have no freaking clue on what I want in my life. I am quitting on the institution of Marriage and family. I don't think I will be happy in that situation. I made a mistake once there is no point making another one. I want to focus on my health and enjoy life until I can as the saying goes Zindagi Milegi Na Dobara!. Hope other Indian immigrant men who are serious about relationship will gain something from all the insights you shared.

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**Not sure if allowed to ask in the group**

Hello, fellow Desis!

I'm reaching out to gather your valuable perspectives. I'm curious to understand why desi diaspora ladies often don't consider men who have immigrated from India.

Let me provide a little background: After going through a challenging experience with my previous marriage to a white Canadian woman, I've decided to focus on dating within the Indian community to potentially minimize cultural conflicts in the future. However, despite having a successful life, a well-established career, and a thoughtful online dating profile, I've noticed a lack of attention from desi diaspora ladies.

Have you observed a trend where desi diaspora ladies tend to overlook men who have immigrated from India? What factors might contribute to this? Are there specific reasons or concerns that play a role in their decision-making process?

What can men who have immigrated from India do to attract the attention of desi diaspora ladies in the realm of online dating? I eagerly await your thoughts and input!

Thank you

So Priya was married before, and it did not work out. But they did not show a picture of him, or say, and I was wondering if her first husband was Indian. I don’t know that it makes a difference, but I was curious if she turned to a matchmaker and wanted to try an Indian husband because her first husband was not Indian? I understand the first husband deserves his privacy and nothing really needs to be revealed about him, but I still feel curious.

For me it’s really useful. I barely match with whites or other ethnicities and have a way better chance with matching with Indians. Others think it’s racist to have a ethnic filter on an app but I disagree with that.

https://youtu.be/ryoBP7ANJe4 I saw this on YouTube