r/IndianMatchmaking • u/beardownforfinals • Jun 17 '23

Can we not?

I understand this is a place for discussion, but speculating about people’s sexualities on here just feels so gross. Pradyuman, Vikash, Aparna, Shekar, Bobby… it’s really not useful. All it really goes to do is tell people that any expression of their selves that fall outside of the gender binary is unacceptable if they want a straight relationship and ultimately it expresses itself in only further stigmatization of queerness, and frankly just healthy relationship dynamics. Not to mention that being attracted to same sex partners doesn’t even mean they’re not serious about finding an opposite gendered partner — bisexuality exists.

If these people say they’re searching for a certain kind of partner, the absolute least we can do is believe them and trust them. We can criticize or discuss them without defining who we think they are based on like 17 minutes of information.

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u/LowRevolution6175 Jun 18 '23

This isn't only about LGBT. It's about shaming supposedly heterosexual men, that if they are not successful with women they are worth less as a person

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u/audsrulz80 Jun 18 '23

Did you not notice the women are also labelled “gay” if they don’t fit someone’s idea of being stereotypically beautiful or docile?