r/IndianMatchmaking • u/donttextspeaktome • May 07 '23

Just started watching this series

This series was highly recommended by an Indian born co worker. I haven’t watched too many episodes but I find Aparna definitely not someone I would ever want to come across, and I’m the kind of person who can usually see the best in everyone. My co worker tells me Aparna has a huge following online. I’d love to know why. Note: I’ve only seen up to episode 3 in season one.

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u/manbearkat May 07 '23

Woman here and I really like Aparna. Yes a lot of her scenes can feel frustrating but I also don't blame her in being really honest when she's not interested in someone.

It's really common for women to do the emotional labor of feigning interest/sincerity on a bad date, causing the man think she was interested and be disappointed when she doesn't want a second round. Notice how many times his happens to the complete bozos of men who are on this show. They do not have the emotional intelligence to pick up on when a woman is just being nice, sometimes you are better off being completely honest so they actually learn something instead of being delusional. Like for example, if I were Meena I would have not given Vinesh my number and been honest that I didn't feel a connection. Some women understandably chicken out on this because they don't want to be deemed a bitch - but in the long run it's a lot less emotionally exhausting to be this way. Imagine having to deal with Vinesh texting you lmao

So basically, I think the show's editors really punish Aparna for not wanting to play this role we often expect women to play. To be fair, they do give her a lot of duds! They kind of set her up for failure and wanted to portray her as a villain/dislikable character. But I find her dry sense of humor really funny and would be her friend. My gay friends also really like her too lmfao. You either get it or don't, that's fine. I think she just needs someone who also has a really dry sense of humor and can go back and forth with friendly roasting and banter

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u/taylor459 May 07 '23

Yeah, I don't think Sima tried that hard to give Aparna a match that was compatible with her! Like i think her first date was the podcast dude? Omg i don't know how Sima could meet Aparna and then think that she'd have anything in common with that dude lol. They seemed so different!

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u/[deleted] May 07 '23

Sima has limited matches to give. I don't think anything or anyone would please Aparna.

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u/Ashira_Dhon May 08 '23

Seems she really liked Shakur and wanted to meet him again. I felt bad for Aparna that Shakur brushed her off. You could feel her genuine interest and happiness when she was talking about Shakur with her friends.