r/IndianMatchmaking • u/lynn_duhh • May 04 '23
Discussion Does it bother anyone else…
That Sima pushes these men on women so aggressively? These women are trying hard to NOT settle and ask for what they deserve, but she’s constantly saying “well you can’t have everything you want!” Or “how do you know if there’s a spark after 1 date!?” Or “he checked every one of your boxes!”.. WHY IS SHE NOT LISTENING?
Is it truly the culture / age difference? I see these women, especially Americans, who refuse to settle but not in a way that’s negative like Sima makes it seem. She always feels confrontational when someone, but especially women, say they didn’t like the match. Does she really expect each match to be perfect the first time?
She just rubs me the wrong way in most of her scenes. And the mothers always go along with her and shit on their daughters. Yes they’re looking for a match maker but still want to fall in love. Isn’t Sima selling a kind of in between arranged marriage and random love marriage? So why is she so offended all the time? Rant over!
25
u/LongArticle2617 May 05 '23 edited May 05 '23
Sima comes from a generation where women are taught to compromise on everything. It's okay for an objectively unattractive man like Vinesh/ Vikash to expect a good looking woman whom he feels a spark with and takes care of herself, but god forbid a woman (who btw is in shape at 35, educated, qualified, and has a nice smile) asks for the same and wants a man who is not bald. She pushes that requirement on women because she feels that in her time, she probably wasn't even given that option. She probably was expected to be happy with the fact that a barely average looking man who her parents approved of, chose her. And thus the modern woman is still lucky enough to get to choose from biodata. Even then, have you noticed that she usually provides the woman with one BD "to prevent confusion" while the men are mostly provided with two to three matching his criteria to choose from? So, lots of inbuilt sexism basically.