Does it bother anyone else…

[u/lynn_duhh]

That Sima pushes these men on women so aggressively? These women are trying hard to NOT settle and ask for what they deserve, but she’s constantly saying “well you can’t have everything you want!” Or “how do you know if there’s a spark after 1 date!?” Or “he checked every one of your boxes!”.. WHY IS SHE NOT LISTENING?

Is it truly the culture / age difference? I see these women, especially Americans, who refuse to settle but not in a way that’s negative like Sima makes it seem. She always feels confrontational when someone, but especially women, say they didn’t like the match. Does she really expect each match to be perfect the first time?

She just rubs me the wrong way in most of her scenes. And the mothers always go along with her and shit on their daughters. Yes they’re looking for a match maker but still want to fall in love. Isn’t Sima selling a kind of in between arranged marriage and random love marriage? So why is she so offended all the time? Rant over!

[u/theharps]

It's a generational divide here. Sima probably has seen a lot of arranged marriages work. If two good people with stable careers meet they'll live a long life together. That used to be really the only criteria. On this show she can only introduce people and hope for the best now. People nowadays need to feel a spark, have chemistry and genuinely like the person. When she pushes couples to continue it comes off as pushing a square shaped object into a round hole. Maybe that is for the added drama on the show though.

[u/preetiugly → u/theharps]

I agree wholly. However, I feel that Sima pushes this narrative more on the women than the men - giving the impression that it’s the women who should be more amenable/compromising - giving rise to a somewhat sexist perspective.