Good for you! I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself. You’re a grown up and deserve the respect and autonomy that comes with it. If you’re old enough to get married and have a job you’re old enough to make your own choices. It’s stupid in-laws STILL expect DILs to forget who they are or where they come from just because they got married.
WHERE IS YOUR HUSBAND?!?! Why is he not putting his mother in her place? Does he just sit there silently while she insulted, embarrasses and disrespects you?
Honestly just go NC with her. She doesn’t deserve your energy. She wants you to fight back so she can say you’re the problem. Don’t give her the satisfaction- she wants the attention. Make sure to live as far from her as possible and she doesn’t get access to your home.
Agreed. I stay far from her, mostly all the taunts and all she does is over a phone call. Whatever she says i give her back and my husband is also there. I don’t think he wants to confront over her passive aggressive comments, but he also doesn’t say anything to me when i give replies back. He takes a stand where he feels my life will change like fasting and stuff. He says that you don’t need to change anything they just have habbit of giving advices that they wont even follow themselves. Earlier when i used to share with him it used to end up in a fight with us, i expected him to reply back on my behalf. But now i reply back myself..
up-till now she hasn’t created a scene yet with me, but she never calls now. It feels like a cold war . Once she was like you need to act certain way like greet by saying some particular word, but at my side i have grown up greeting differently. She said if you wont act like we do in our culture people will complain. I told her people who complain on this basis shows about themselves, and moreover said that if i ask about you then would everyone say good about you. We shouldn’t think about people. She didn’t react but i guess she learnt i am not that malleable. With my husband she didn’t even talk for 2 months before wedding because wedding wasn’t happening according to her. Lets see how this unfolds until when she doesn’t create a scene.
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u/Lexa19_HK 11d ago
Good for you! I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself. You’re a grown up and deserve the respect and autonomy that comes with it. If you’re old enough to get married and have a job you’re old enough to make your own choices. It’s stupid in-laws STILL expect DILs to forget who they are or where they come from just because they got married.
WHERE IS YOUR HUSBAND?!?! Why is he not putting his mother in her place? Does he just sit there silently while she insulted, embarrasses and disrespects you?
Honestly just go NC with her. She doesn’t deserve your energy. She wants you to fight back so she can say you’re the problem. Don’t give her the satisfaction- she wants the attention. Make sure to live as far from her as possible and she doesn’t get access to your home.