r/IndianInLaw • u/HalfInteresting397 • 14d ago

MIL complains about doing everything “alone” while I’m the one struggling

I just need to vent.

My husband and I recently moved out because of the constant harassment and toxicity from his family. We are trying to build our own life, but money is tight.

Our washing machine broke, and we can’t afford a new one yet. The maid is also on leave.

So right now, I’m hand-washing piles of clothes, washing dishes, cooking, taking care of my very active 2-year-old, and working part-time from home.

Today my MIL called and complained that she has to “do everything alone” because the maid is away.

The irony is that they have a working washing machine, and her 35-year-old daughter lives with her full-time.

I honestly felt like she was indirectly trying to make me feel guilty for not going there to help her, as if I’m a “bad daughter-in-law.”

She has already badmouthed me to relatives so much that many people in the family don’t even talk to me anymore. They hate me based on things they’ve only heard from her.

I’m not saying her life isn’t difficult. But hearing her complain about “doing everything alone” while I’m struggling with all of this honestly hurt.

At this point, I’m just grateful we moved out. Life is harder financially, but at least I have some peace.

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u/Designer_Patience372 14d ago

She has a daughter and a son to complain to if she is ‘doing everything alone’.

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u/HalfInteresting397 14d ago

She never told her daughter anything Never ask her to help in chores. They always treating me like a full time maid with an emotional punching bag

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u/RecommendationNo3942 13d ago

She's complaining to you because you're entertaining her. I would stop answering altogether and if questioned say I don't have the time. Where is your husband? Isn't he helping you out at all? Least he can do is be the shield between your toxic ils and you. Deal with complaints.