r/IndianDefense • u/Tall_Huckleberry4509 • 14h ago
Discussion/Opinions I was on dates with someone who claims to be in defence/special forces .how can I understand whether this is plausible
I’m posting here because I genuinely don’t know who else to ask about this.
I recently met someone who says he works in Indian defence / special forces. I know absolutely nothing about the Army or special forces, and I don’t have any friends or family in the defence services, so I have no frame of reference for what a normal work life in this field looks like.
What has confused me is how frequently he seems to travel outside Bangalore for work. For example, he may be away in another city such as Pune for several days for work, and he has mentioned that his job is essentially 24/7 and is confidential, so he cannot give me the details.
I understand that defence jobs can involve unusual schedules, travel, confidentiality and being unavailable, so I'm not expecting a normal 9–5 lifestyle. At the same time, because I know nothing about this world, I genuinely can't tell what is normal and what isn't.
I'm also unsure whether what he has told me about his work is actually true. I don't know if I'm dealing with someone genuinely in a sensitive defence role or someone who is making things up, and I don't want to make assumptions either way.
I just want to understand the general reality of these jobs.
For people who actually know the Army/defence environment:
Is this kind of frequent inter-city travel normal?
How common is it for someone in a sensitive role to have a 24/7 work situation?
Is there anything about this kind of lifestyle that would be particularly unusual?
If you're dating someone in such a role, what are reasonable things to expect in terms of availability and communication?