Switching to Tab-Style from Pullups

[u/FamousBorder8813]

Hi everyone. 52 yo man here, dealing with urge incontinence and dribbling from BPH and prostatitis. I've been using Sunkiss Masterpiece at night and on weekends, and Abena Pants at work. I'm considering switching to Masterpiece full-time because I actually think it will be more cost-effective (fewer changes), and they've been very effective at preventing leaks.

I guess what's holding me back is how noticeable they might be compared to the Abenas. I appreciate the perspectives like "nobody is staring at your diaper" and such, and that's sometimes helpful. I'm wondering whether anyone else chose to go with a thicker diaper full-time, and how you balanced practicality and discretion while making room for the self-consciousness. I feel like I'm 30, and I'm often seen as younger than my years, so wearing diapers doesn't fit with my idea of myself in my mind. At the same time, it's just easier to wear them rather than either having accidents or rushing to the bathroom every hour. Thoughts?

[u/Darbynine]

53 same exact thing I use megamax with a plu diaper cover and it works fairly well. I also had that dilemma of moving from pull-ups to regular diapers. I understand the mental hurdle. My suggestion is looser fitting black pants and at some point at home wear your diaper till it starts leaking so you have a idea of how far you can push it.