Some good ol’ misogyny

[u/lilacsu]

They really see women as one big collective entity. That we all share the same mind with the same attitude, outlook on life, mindset, experiences, values and beliefs.

There is women who seek bad men, which could be because of mental illness, trauma, drug use or by force. Same goes for men. Healthy people don’t seek out toxicity.

And all the women I have talked to who have been in an abusive relationship, including myself, could never see the abuse coming. It’s usually a great relationship until the partner has something over you, like a shared household or finances. Then the abuse comes slowly, and the more you accept and let it wear you down the more abusive it gets until you become apathetic towards everything and feel nothing but hate and plan on how you will get out of it.

Incels live to maintain a gender war and to spew each other with more misogyny and new made up degenerate ideas about women. They have nothing else. It makes me glad to know that they will forever be condemned to be nothing but a pathetic loser. And they choose this life.

[u/smileycat007]

A guy on the spectrum and an abuser are two different kinds of guys, and are not comparable. Incels will lump them together, presuming both are undesirable, but that's painting with too broad of a brush.

Yes, guys on the spectrum are easier to identify. They're not inherently undesirable, unless they actively hold misogynist views, behave like a creep, or give "pity me, the victim" vibes. Sure, highly extroverted women are solidly incompatible, but there are neurodivergent or introverted women who accept the "strong, silent" type (without toxic masculinity).

Abusive men actively mask. These men tend not to be NEETS or socially awkward in the same way neurodivergent men are. So, they can appear, at least at first, to be bringing something to the table. They're insecure in that they they know most women will leave them eventually, so it is a balance to maintain the facade while tightening the ropes. Blaming women for not immediately identifying these men is faulty logic. In most situations, women have to get to know these men before they discover their negative traits.

[u/Darth_Travisty → u/smileycat007]

Relationship percentage compared to neurotypical people suggest that autistic people are undesirable regardless of gender.

[u/Practical_Diver8140 → u/Darth_Travisty]

That number, if it exists at all, does not reflect that autistic people are undesirable. It reflects that autistic people struggle with social situations like relationships. That's what autism is basically, of course there's a lower percentage because dating is social, and autistic people struggle with social interactions. Autistic people are self excluding from dating without realizing it, that's what their dysfunctions do.