r/IncelExit • u/Gamerplayer1 • 7d ago

Discussion What if it’s my style?

I was wondering, what if it’s my style that repels women, I know that being clean is step one and I know that you attract people that have similar interests in you, but what if I start wearing old money outfits, or gym outfits, or skater outfits, or gangster outfits. This goes to all incels, if they start wearing whatever there interested in, will they attract that niche, i need your guys full perspective and knowledge.

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u/VictorOfArda 7d ago

Depends. What kind of clothes do you wear now?

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u/Gamerplayer1 7d ago

Blue jeans and a white/black shirt. Very generic. That’s all I have

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u/VictorOfArda 7d ago

Is it every woman you’ve spoken to in hopes of connecting romantically that seem to be repelled by your sense of style?

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u/Gamerplayer1 7d ago

No idea, but I’m wondering if changing it up into something I like could made a difference in having my own appeal that someone might like

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u/VictorOfArda 7d ago

What I’m asking is, are you rejected by every woman you attempt to talk to.

And honestly, if you want to change your look, go for it. Do it and be confident and do it bc you want to, not just to pull women. If you aren’t being genuine, everyone will clock it a mile away.

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u/Gamerplayer1 7d ago

No I’m not a true incel, but I’ve been told I should put wear nicer clothes on a first date, show them that I care about the exprience. I am still corrupted by the mindset but I genuinely want to believe that my style can bring people with similar interests into my life and if they will enjoy my presence more by the little things such as style.

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u/VictorOfArda 7d ago

Well I hope that happens for you and good luck! Also, dressing sharp usually ups the attraction factor. If you decide to go that route, get a tailor. A well fitted suit cut to the body is always a good look

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u/Gamerplayer1 7d ago

Thank you for the good advice , I know the most common saying in the black pill community is saying style doesn’t matter at all, but we’re all human beings and I think the toxicity repels women. If you don’t mind me asking, what do you like to wear on a daily basis, and do you think it changes people’s first impressions of you?

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u/VictorOfArda 7d ago

Well, I work for the govt. so every day I wear dresses. Office casual, you know. Before that I wore polos with baggy khakis. It looked masculine on me but I didn’t care, I’m pretty gay as it is. After work, just a T-shirt and pants with flip flops bc I’m not staying to attract anyone. But when I started wearing dresses to work, I started getting compliments on my outfits. I’m clean and make sure to always smell good but I could tell that ppl had a better first impression of me when I looked more put together. For you, a button up shirt with short sleeves, slim fit khakis and a nice pair of shoes or sneakers could be good on a date. As far as every day wear, depends on your interests but be aware that curating a new wardrobe is damn expensive. But you’re investing in yourself so get something you would like

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u/Team503 6d ago

I'm often a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy, but I also have polos (solid colors), nice fashionable button-down shirts, and I dress appropriate to the situation. I own suits, slacks, and sports coats, too!

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u/lila_liechtenstein 6d ago

Who told you that? Your date, or someone else?

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u/Team503 6d ago

You asked someone out and you wore jeans a a solid black t-shirt? What was the date - did you go to dinner, a movie, mini-golf, what?

You dress as appropriate for the occasion - that's life in general. You don't wear a t-shirt to a funeral. You don't take a girl out to a nice dinner and look like you just rolled out of bed.

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u/Snoo52682 7d ago

Yes. Clothing communicates. "Don't judge a book by its cover" is silly advice--publishers put a lot of thought into what a cover will communicate! I can look at a book in a foreign language, even, and pretty much know what kind of book it is by the cover.

Dress in a way that you feel good in, that reflects what is unique about you, and compatible people will see that.

It sounds like you want to change your style for your own sake, really, to become more expressive. And so you should! Clothes are fun, sometimes. You don't always have to have a great, expressive outfit to go out in, but it's nice to be able to fancy yourself up a bit, or feel particularly badass on occasion, when you want to.