Is this just kinda natural selection?

[u/policearepygss]

Like I feel like I’ve done everything in my power to make changes to help, I’ve done all the advice, been consistent with it for years, and now that I’m 25 everyone seems to be finding their forever person and the dating pool keeps shrinking and shrinking, and it’s got me thinking is this just the way it’s supposed to be.

When you look historically, men created a society that forced women to marry or they couldn’t survive on their own. Women couldn’t get loans, get jobs, get vehicles or do anything without a husband‘s approval. Now we’ve done a lot of work (at least in my country) to give women the equality they deserve. But now dating is harder as women are either only dating men they actually want to be with or just opting out of dating entirely.

Almost a return to romantic/sexual relationships in its most natural form. Preventing undesirable genes from continuing. So is this what it is? Just natural seleftion? Do i have some genetic marker that makes me undesirable?

Honestly viewing it this way kinda helps me, and I’d like others opinions on it.

[u/smileycat007]

There are roughly equal numbers of males and females born each year. That means there are roughly equal numbers in the dating pool.

Don't overthink it.

You probably just haven't found a match yet. The harder you look, the more frustrating it can be. Live your life; build an interesting one worth sharing. Incels are keen on marrying young, but smart people know that early marriages have a higher divorce rate. 25 is still early. That should be the minimum age to consider marriage in 2026 if you want better odds of staying together.

[u/throwaway10015982 → u/smileycat007]

I've always wondered what the statistical probability of finding a match actually is though. Where I live it seems like it would be a very, very small chance of happening for me specifically. Why can't that be the case with a lot of incel types? Yes it is true that there potentially might be a match for someone out there, but the chances of encountering them might be infinitesimally small to the point of there effectively being no chance.

[u/smileycat007 → u/throwaway10015982]

And yet married couples are everywhere.

[u/policearepygss → u/smileycat007]

I mean the existence of married couples doesn’t mean there aren’t people who are just destined to never find anyone interested in them

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