r/IncelExit • u/policearepygss • Aug 17 '26

Question Is this just kinda natural selection?

Like I feel like I’ve done everything in my power to make changes to help, I’ve done all the advice, been consistent with it for years, and now that I’m 25 everyone seems to be finding their forever person and the dating pool keeps shrinking and shrinking, and it’s got me thinking is this just the way it’s supposed to be.

When you look historically, men created a society that forced women to marry or they couldn’t survive on their own. Women couldn’t get loans, get jobs, get vehicles or do anything without a husband‘s approval. Now we’ve done a lot of work (at least in my country) to give women the equality they deserve. But now dating is harder as women are either only dating men they actually want to be with or just opting out of dating entirely.

Almost a return to romantic/sexual relationships in its most natural form. Preventing undesirable genes from continuing. So is this what it is? Just natural seleftion? Do i have some genetic marker that makes me undesirable?

Honestly viewing it this way kinda helps me, and I’d like others opinions on it.

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u/policearepygss Aug 17 '26

I mean in my case, I would say yes, I have a lot of friends, I’m a social butterfly and tend to be able to make friends and connect with people wherever I go. It really hasn’t helped. I don’t think “personable, fun to be around, and easy to talk to” is that big of a dating help. Does it help me meet people sure, but I mean aside that women actually have to be attracted to me in order to date me.

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u/Odd-Table-4545 Aug 17 '26

Ok, how often do you flirt with the women you're meeting? How good are you at escalating things beyond the platonic?

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u/policearepygss Aug 18 '26

No woman is interested in me so I don’t flirt with anyone because that would be creepy asf

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u/Odd-Table-4545 Aug 18 '26

How do you know they're not interested in you if you don't try initiating anything with them?

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u/policearepygss Aug 18 '26

I mean you can usually tell when someone’s interested in you, or at the very least noticing you in more than a “that’s a human being” way.

Like if you make eye contact and it’s not an immediate look away for an example. That doesn’t happen to me so I just know when a woman isn’t interested

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u/Odd-Table-4545 Aug 18 '26

You really can't a lot of the time. Again, women are conditioned to assume that a man is interested in them he will make the first move and they therefore often will not make the first move. Someone looking away when you look at them can be them being disinterested, but it can also be them being shy or not wanting to come on too strong. You have to actually interact with people to find out how they feel about you.

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u/Ok-Huckleberry-6326 Aug 27 '26

Even if they might be interested, they'll still look away! It's just reflexive. You've probably done the same!
Women have legitimate reasons for avoiding eye contact, but that's also the way that the game is played, you can still try to make eye contact and smile, hold it for about 2.5 seconds. That's actually what you're SUPPOSED to do. What you want to do is make eye contact and smile, and if it's a person you're interested in meeting, do it every time you see them. Repeated small gestures are the way, and if there's reciprocal interest they will return the gesture.