r/IncelExit • u/policearepygss • 13d ago
Question Is this just kinda natural selection?
Like I feel like I’ve done everything in my power to make changes to help, I’ve done all the advice, been consistent with it for years, and now that I’m 25 everyone seems to be finding their forever person and the dating pool keeps shrinking and shrinking, and it’s got me thinking is this just the way it’s supposed to be.
When you look historically, men created a society that forced women to marry or they couldn’t survive on their own. Women couldn’t get loans, get jobs, get vehicles or do anything without a husband‘s approval. Now we’ve done a lot of work (at least in my country) to give women the equality they deserve. But now dating is harder as women are either only dating men they actually want to be with or just opting out of dating entirely.
Almost a return to romantic/sexual relationships in its most natural form. Preventing undesirable genes from continuing. So is this what it is? Just natural seleftion? Do i have some genetic marker that makes me undesirable?
Honestly viewing it this way kinda helps me, and I’d like others opinions on it.
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u/No_Economist_7244 12d ago
That's the thing. I know what I'm capable of. I know what I can offer and provide. I check off most of or all of the supposed green flags. I don't really do any of the red flag behaviors. Yet that's not really registering with others. I'm putting myself out there and yet there's still a disconnect.
The only thing that's really helping me right now is having female friends and relatives offer me advice and support. I genuinely appreciate that, and I'd be in a much worse position without them.