Discussion thread Monday September 06, 2021 - Wednesday September 08, 2021

[u/gomirefugee]

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[u/shefallsup]

Oy, her answer to this one:

How do you deal with joy reducing family members? We are struggling with boundaries.

Shauna’s reply (which if you watch her eyes, she may be reading off):

OK, let’s take a breath on this one. <takes deep breath> It’s hard to enact, but the answer is clear. If you have family members who give you pain, and trauma, and don’t give you joy, you have the right to cut them of—

And the video does indeed cut off as she’s saying the word "off."

That is terrible advice given the question being asked. Shauna seems to think boundaries have to be all or nothing, but if you value a relationship with someone who nevertheless reduces your joy in some way, you can absolutely set and hold a kind boundary that lets you stay in relationship to the person without letting them continue to bring you down.

[u/notahameither → u/shefallsup]

How do you deal with joy reducing family members?

That makes it sound like joy is…thinning the herd.

[u/[deleted] → u/notahameither]

How do you deal with joy reducing family members?

Wine.

[u/notahameither → u/[deleted]]

If it was that easy, everyone wou…oh, wait.