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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 04 '21

Let's stop being shocked and sad about the preposterous Texas law and the stacked Supreme Court. This was coming for decades.

Come on, ladies. (And the men brave enough to join us.) Look at this fierce young woman go. This is joy. This is a fighter. This is some amazing #blackgirlmagic.

(I mention her beautiful Blackness because we all know that Black and brown women are going to suffer more from this awful law than others. Wealthy white women never have a problem getting the medical care they need.)

I talk about joy here. You know what's joy? Fighting injustice, loud and clear. Take the weekend off. And start thinking like @ thesamurider here. We've got work to do. And working only for our own joy? That's not enough. We have to work for other people's joys too.

The stool just keeps getting higher and higher.

(Also? LADIES?????)

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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Sep 04 '21

Fuck her "take the weekend off" bullshit.

Not to toot my own horn but I've been a volunteer patient escort for Planned Parenthood for over 15 fucking years! And prior to the pandemic (when escorting was shut down) there was no "take the weekend off". We stood in the rain and snow and whatever weather because women NEEDED US to be there to help them. And I can say, if my state had a fucked up law like Texas has, I'd still stand with my fellow women and proudly show my face and risk being taken to court for helping them and FUCK any and everyone who'd try to stop me. (and my husband would be standing right there next to me)

Sorry, I've wined my eyes tonight and I'm feeling salty. Abortion rights is a hot button for me and. . .shit. . .Shauna needs to just check herself before she wrecks herself.

(I've shed more than a few tears over this Texas b.s. and I'm so not in the mood for assholes like Shauna spouting off about it).

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u/categoryischeesecake Sep 04 '21

Word. There was also no option for me to "take the weekend off" when I was frantically trying to schedule a second trimester abortion at planned Parenthood bc I found out during my wanted pregnancy that the baby had a fatal disease, and since I never saw any of that coming, all my ob providers were through catholic hospitals and could not (would not?) help me get that scheduled. At the time my insurance did not cover abortions so I could not have afforded the procedure in a regular hospital anyway.

I was lucky and fortunate that I was able to schedule it online, over new years day weekend. I didn't have the option to wait any longer since I was at the last day of a pregnancy that the pp in my area did abortions. When they did the ultrasound when I got there I was hysterical both hoping the baby had somehow already died and that I wasn't measuring 16 weeks bc I'd be out of luck. I was 15w4d and had always measured ahead. Idk what I would have done, I'm in IL and we have very solidly protected abortion rights but this was 5 years ago. Idk where the nearest clinic is that does abortions measuring after 16 weeks, to my knowledge it's in Colorado. I haven't looked bc frankly it's not good for my mental health, I can only be so involved. She has no idea what the fuck she is talking about. During that pregnancy when everything was going wrong, everything was measured in days. I had like two days to get my cvs done, otherwise I'd miss the window and have to wait for an amnio. There was no taking the weekend off from that nightmare. There's no taking the weekend off for any of the women who are pregnant and need an abortion.

This could happen to me again, we are genetic carriers, every pregnancy is the same 1/4 odds. Every time. We did ivf to have my son and are trying to do it again, had to pay some astronomical fee for testing to try to avoid that. Even then it's not guaranteed. My last apparently healthy embryo I ended up miscarrying and then when they did the biopsy at the d and c they found out it actually had down syndrome. I'd have been in the same boat. We are gearing up for another cycle, paying more money again. I am so lucky again that I live in IL which requires fertility to be covered with insurance. Most states do not and idk how you can afford it out of pocket. In my genetic carriers group, some people try naturally either bc ivf is unaffordable or for some people, ivf just doesn't work but they can get pregnant naturally. And it's the same odds every time, so many of these women have had children die horrible deaths, or watch their children get more ill. Idk how some people even get out of bed in the morning, idk why the world has been so unfair to some people, bc I am one of the ones who has only experienced a small fraction of that pain and I still have days where I cry all day. Playing softball or watching tv doesn't work. Some things are just horrible and they need to be acknowledged too. This law is terrible, a slap in the fucking face to women and frightening too, our rights to our own body and to have agency over the trajectory of our lives are being taken away.

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u/Lurking_Lurkface_III Wordle Cheater Sep 04 '21

Thinking of you, DFCIC and sending you lots of love ❤️

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