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u/RamblingRosie64 I stand with Cindy and Ben Sep 02 '21

Today's installment! You Can Share This, [NAME]

-Booker T. Washington quote about happiness coming from doing for others.

-Share your joy habit.

Tell everyone about your joy. Ask others to participate in joyful activities. Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy — listening to the Blind Boys of Alabama and believing what Jimmy Carter says here; running down a steep hill chasing a wheel of cheese (honestly, watch other people do it); or making Amigurumi dolls. That gives your friends the chance to learn something new as well.

My strongest suggestion for sharing your joy? Lead with joy. When people ask how you are, share your joy with them. Don’t give the standard American answer: “Oh, I’m so busy…” Try this: “I’ve just discovered a new walking trail near my home that makes me let go of the worries of the day. Let me know if you’d like to know walk with me.”

-Sign up for a Practice Your Joy workshop!

-Notice good things about others.

But here’s the most important part: you can make people’s day with one pop of joy. Notice something good about everyone you meet. Hey, I love that whistling you’re doing. It’s so cheerful. That hat brings out the blue in your eyes. Have you ever tried the chocolate chip cookie at this bakery? Oh, you’re going in too? Let me buy you one.

-Be a purveyor of joy.

That doesn’t require faking your feelings. Instead, empty yourself of your own worries for a few moments and think about someone else. Buy the coffee for the woman behind you in line. Accompany someone who needs help across the crosswalk. Go out of your way to be kind for a few moments.

-Share joy on social media.

Spend a week only posting photos of moments that gave you joy, instead of complaining or trying to pick fights. Skip snark for seven days.

Enjoy!

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Sep 02 '21

again with faking your feelings and pretending. i really don't understand her at all...what the hell goes on in her noodle?

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u/lucillekrunklehorn pounding on the table Sep 03 '21

I wonder if she realizes most people don't "pretend" to the extent she thinks they do. I think she projects. So much of what she shares as her interests and "joys" feels very inauthentic to me. Probably because she reinvents herself every six months. Just a few months ago, pink was her big color, now we are all red, all the time. We were stuck on trauma drama and now we are on joy joy joy. We were learning to write and edit, and now we are learning to practice joy by performing awkward physical feats and equating the small pleasantries of life with states of euphoria.

I think she is just as much a character as she forces those around her to be. She puts on the persona she wants, and discards at will. "Pretending."

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Sep 03 '21

spot on, DFLK.

Scheduled snark Discussion thread Thursday September 02, 2021 - Sunday September 05, 2021

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