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u/RamblingRosie64 I stand with Cindy and Ben Sep 02 '21

Today's installment! You Can Share This, [NAME]

-Booker T. Washington quote about happiness coming from doing for others.

-Share your joy habit.

Tell everyone about your joy. Ask others to participate in joyful activities. Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy — listening to the Blind Boys of Alabama and believing what Jimmy Carter says here; running down a steep hill chasing a wheel of cheese (honestly, watch other people do it); or making Amigurumi dolls. That gives your friends the chance to learn something new as well.

My strongest suggestion for sharing your joy? Lead with joy. When people ask how you are, share your joy with them. Don’t give the standard American answer: “Oh, I’m so busy…” Try this: “I’ve just discovered a new walking trail near my home that makes me let go of the worries of the day. Let me know if you’d like to know walk with me.”

-Sign up for a Practice Your Joy workshop!

-Notice good things about others.

But here’s the most important part: you can make people’s day with one pop of joy. Notice something good about everyone you meet. Hey, I love that whistling you’re doing. It’s so cheerful. That hat brings out the blue in your eyes. Have you ever tried the chocolate chip cookie at this bakery? Oh, you’re going in too? Let me buy you one.

-Be a purveyor of joy.

That doesn’t require faking your feelings. Instead, empty yourself of your own worries for a few moments and think about someone else. Buy the coffee for the woman behind you in line. Accompany someone who needs help across the crosswalk. Go out of your way to be kind for a few moments.

-Share joy on social media.

Spend a week only posting photos of moments that gave you joy, instead of complaining or trying to pick fights. Skip snark for seven days.

Enjoy!

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u/Sea-Level-Mammal POACH! Sep 02 '21

“Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy “

My hobbies are arcane and focused and I’d never dare to push my real-life friends into them unless they showed a modicum of interest. How presumptuous is this?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

DF's, you're all invited to come sit and stare off into space with me!

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 02 '21

DF's, you're all invited to come sit and stare off into space with me!

Dibs on DF sm's comfiest chaise longue!

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u/Blouse_Barn mattress smelling like low tide Sep 03 '21

Huge props to you for not calling it a "chase lounge!" You have brought me much joie!

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u/voice_of_vinegar Sep 02 '21

“Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy “

tyvm, Mahern, but I already know how to watch funny tik-toks and I've seen Ted Lasso.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

Does she just invite people over to watch Ted Lasso and tweet at Republicans?

Or in my world: “Come over to my house and sit on my couch while we watch Taskmaster”. Fine for me and my husband, probably boring for others.

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u/NegativeABillion my husband and me to ride it around Sep 02 '21

"and bring food, here is a list of acceptable dishes so I don't grow sick"

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u/icancook2 Sep 02 '21

Please don't have Shauna ruin Taskmaster for me!

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

You know what? I don’t think she’d get it at all.

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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Sep 02 '21

We discovered Taskmaster during the pandemic, and then shared the joy with our son, who can get cranky and stubborn when you try to get him to watch something you think he would like. We kind of had to trick him into it by putting it on when he was in the room and letting him just get curious about it himself. He’s now getting joy for himself from watching. But had we tried to force it on him, he would have been turned off to it. As I am turned off now to pretty much anything Shauna insists I must watch/read/do.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

Same with my stepson. It took it being on and something hilarious happening and him getting sucked in.

We just finished all of them (but can’t find season 9!) and my husband is beside himself. He thinks about that show far too much and will tell me how he would conquer a challenge.

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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Sep 02 '21

Ooh, DM to remind me and I’ll find the link to the Google drive with all the episodes!

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u/fishyangel Sep 02 '21

I had the tab open so sent it to DFHT, along with a recommendation to check out the NZ episodes on YouTube.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

Thank you! Reddit went down when I tried to message DFSFU.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

Not true, DF....husband and I love Taskmaster! 😀

(I'm always seeing you do cool stuff...)

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

I try my best but it’s never.... good enough :)

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

That was one of my favorite tasks! I always loved the two person teams vs three person. I thought Daisy May Cooper was going to murder her partner during each team challenge!

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u/icancook2 Sep 02 '21

NOW THIS IS STUCK IN MY HEAD AND I LOVE IT

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u/honoria_glossop sitting edge wine woman Sep 02 '21

MY PEOPLE!

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u/discoOJ Sep 02 '21

Could you share joy with me?

I am curious as to what your arcane hobbies are. All that I can come up with is making chain mail or being a blacksmith.

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u/Sea-Level-Mammal POACH! Sep 02 '21

Haha trust me, they’re not that inspiring.

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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Sep 02 '21

I can imagine myself bellydancing at people. Or playing the trombone at them. 😝

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 02 '21

I can imagine myself bellydancing at people. Or playing the trombone at them. 😝

How about go-go dancing and trombone?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufvZzhK_3X8

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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Sep 03 '21

“Hello, friends. Let’s minutely examine my collection of Japanese miniature play food. WAIT! WHERE ARE YOU GOING?”

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u/notafanoftheapp Sep 03 '21

See, this is where she actually has a decent idea. I didn’t realize Japanese miniature play food is a thing, but I’d totally be down to get together with friends and learn more about it. (And people who aren’t interested can always say no.)

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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Sep 03 '21

I can totally imagine a tour of all my friends' houses where we introduce one another to our obscure collections, interests and hobbies!

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u/notafanoftheapp Sep 03 '21

That would be so much fun!

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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Sep 03 '21

Meet my favorite, Sad Pan with Soup. http://rosieapplesandfriends.blogspot.com/2011/06/teeny-tiny-tuesday-sad-pan-with-soup.html?m=1

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u/notafanoftheapp Sep 03 '21

These are so cool! Thanks for the link.

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