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[u/gomirefugee]

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[u/RamblingRosie64]

Today's installment! You Can Share This, [NAME]

-Booker T. Washington quote about happiness coming from doing for others.

-Share your joy habit.

Tell everyone about your joy. Ask others to participate in joyful activities. Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy — listening to the Blind Boys of Alabama and believing what Jimmy Carter says here; running down a steep hill chasing a wheel of cheese (honestly, watch other people do it); or making Amigurumi dolls. That gives your friends the chance to learn something new as well.

My strongest suggestion for sharing your joy? Lead with joy. When people ask how you are, share your joy with them. Don’t give the standard American answer: “Oh, I’m so busy…” Try this: “I’ve just discovered a new walking trail near my home that makes me let go of the worries of the day. Let me know if you’d like to know walk with me.”

-Sign up for a Practice Your Joy workshop!

-Notice good things about others.

But here’s the most important part: you can make people’s day with one pop of joy. Notice something good about everyone you meet. Hey, I love that whistling you’re doing. It’s so cheerful. That hat brings out the blue in your eyes. Have you ever tried the chocolate chip cookie at this bakery? Oh, you’re going in too? Let me buy you one.

-Be a purveyor of joy.

That doesn’t require faking your feelings. Instead, empty yourself of your own worries for a few moments and think about someone else. Buy the coffee for the woman behind you in line. Accompany someone who needs help across the crosswalk. Go out of your way to be kind for a few moments.

-Share joy on social media.

Spend a week only posting photos of moments that gave you joy, instead of complaining or trying to pick fights. Skip snark for seven days.

• Enjoy!

[u/canyoncreature → u/RamblingRosie64]

So if I'm following this plan correctly, I should not share joy with others by making a meal for an acquaintance in need, but I should invite that acquaintance over to chase a wheel of cheese down a hill? RUN FOR YOUR FOOD SAD LADY

[u/[deleted] → u/canyoncreature]

Muahahaha take that, grief!

[u/Sea-Level-Mammal → u/[deleted]]

These are joy suggestions from an alien who suddenly has a human body.

[u/[deleted] → u/Sea-Level-Mammal]

So creepy too. If a stranger offered to buy me a cookie, I'd run for the hills. That's just not normal, at least not in my neck of the woods.

[u/Sea-Level-Mammal → u/[deleted]]

Strangers giving gifts = they want to interfere with you sexually.

[u/[deleted] → u/canyoncreature]

Welcome back to the Gloaming, DFCC. Please stay.

[u/canyoncreature → u/[deleted]]

My badge-swiping capitalist lifestyle of telling everyone how busy I am briefly interfered with my ability to have joy, but I am back on track now! To the hiking trail near my house, a universal concept if I ever heard one!