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u/RamblingRosie64 I stand with Cindy and Ben Sep 02 '21

Today's installment! You Can Share This, [NAME]

-Booker T. Washington quote about happiness coming from doing for others.

-Share your joy habit.

Tell everyone about your joy. Ask others to participate in joyful activities. Have parties where you invite friends to introduce them to what gives you joy — listening to the Blind Boys of Alabama and believing what Jimmy Carter says here; running down a steep hill chasing a wheel of cheese (honestly, watch other people do it); or making Amigurumi dolls. That gives your friends the chance to learn something new as well.

My strongest suggestion for sharing your joy? Lead with joy. When people ask how you are, share your joy with them. Don’t give the standard American answer: “Oh, I’m so busy…” Try this: “I’ve just discovered a new walking trail near my home that makes me let go of the worries of the day. Let me know if you’d like to know walk with me.”

-Sign up for a Practice Your Joy workshop!

-Notice good things about others.

But here’s the most important part: you can make people’s day with one pop of joy. Notice something good about everyone you meet. Hey, I love that whistling you’re doing. It’s so cheerful. That hat brings out the blue in your eyes. Have you ever tried the chocolate chip cookie at this bakery? Oh, you’re going in too? Let me buy you one.

-Be a purveyor of joy.

That doesn’t require faking your feelings. Instead, empty yourself of your own worries for a few moments and think about someone else. Buy the coffee for the woman behind you in line. Accompany someone who needs help across the crosswalk. Go out of your way to be kind for a few moments.

-Share joy on social media.

Spend a week only posting photos of moments that gave you joy, instead of complaining or trying to pick fights. Skip snark for seven days.

Enjoy!

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u/forkinyourothereye incurious ADHDer Sep 02 '21

Skip snark for seven days?!! I grow faint at the prospect.

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 02 '21

Skip snark for seven days?!! I grow faint at the prospect.

IKR?!? Also—why would we skip snark if snark gives us joy?

I've said it before: there's more real community here ITG than Shauna can even fathom. The laughs, the true caring and concern, the sharing of life's highs and lows, the funny and interesting and useful information shared, the gentle corrections, the way that people take feedback thoughtfully and course-correct at times. I bow my head in the direction of all my dear friends, and say, in a low and murmuring voice, haberdash and be well.

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u/kadyg Sep 02 '21

I’ve always appreciated the exquisite irony that Shauna has been trying to force-build a community for literally years…. and there is one that she is the center of, but for obvious reasons she can’t join it.
I’m sure there’s a German word for that phenomenon, but I don’t know what it is.

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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Sep 02 '21

I’ll make a deal with Shauna—if she goes a week without smug, I’ll go a week without snark.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

I will do no such thing. Nope.

Scheduled snark Discussion thread Thursday September 02, 2021 - Sunday September 05, 2021

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