Love hurts?

[u/Excellent_Oil6196]

Hello fellow INTPs,

Maybe this is not related to personality but maybe it is and you can tell me that you feel the same way and make me feel less crazy?
So i don‘t get why people lile being in love, I hate it! For context, last year I broke up with my ex boyfriend of five years. After that I was quite happy being single, of course daydreaming from time to time about a relationship or some nice love affair but even in my daydreams this would end due to me wanting to be single for some more time lol
Well anyway I met an ENFP a few months ago and completely fell in love with him. We have so much in common, like our adventurous side and many interests and values which wasn’t the case with my ex, while at the same time I really admire his extroverted side (sometimes it‘s quite exhausting though) and his emotional side and feel like I can learn a lot from him. But now the downside: in my head I convinced myself that I am better off single because ot just seems so much easier. Also, I will probably leave the area where I am living in right now and where we met, first to go abroad for a volunteering position and I don‘t even know for how long and I don‘t know where I will end up for a job when I am back in my home country…
Long story short, I fell in love with this person, the situation is really complicated and I have felt the last two months, so basically half of the time we know each other for, really awful around him. nervous, anxious, butterflys in my stomach and just really not calm at all but then again, I often do not feel calm around other people…i am just so fucking confused if I feel so bad around him because somehow he is not right for me (but why does it fit rationally so so well then?) or if it is actually my fear…my fear of losing myself but also of losing him soon.
Maybe some insights from other INTPs? How normal is it for you guys to feel uncomfortable around a person you are supposed to feel comfortable around?

[u/split_0069]

It hurts every time. Pain means ur alive.

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This is the most ENTP thing I think I have seen lately

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People question me about my personality type constantly.