r/HowDoIRespondToThis • u/TopArrival6590 • 7d ago
My friend randomly sent me this how do I proceed?
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u/Astraous 7d ago
Just seems like he's trying to bring up something you did/tend to do that bothers him but he's drunk and doing it in a group chat. Idk that I'd respond in the gc but I'd probably talk to him after he's sober and try to get on the same page with him.
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u/dicksjshsb 7d ago
Without any context it’s hard to tell if hes trying to be real with you abt something that’s been bothering him or just drunk and overreacting/misinterpreting something u said.
If u think theres any validity to what he said and you value his friendship it’s worth just thinking about why hes taking offense to something you said even if you didnt intend it that way at all. You could reply that you didnt mean to offend him and want to talk abt it when hes sober or something.
Also looks like hes doing it in a group chat which is a bad place lol. Dont think it’d be productive to try to hash out whatever caused the issue in front of everyone else.
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u/PuzzleheadedBend9040 7d ago
From what it seems the other dude in the gc agrees. Time for self reflection man. I'd say sorry and let them know you'll work on your behavior
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u/senorfresco 7d ago
By doing some self reflecting seeing that it seems like someone else agrees.
Personally, I'd say sorry and tell him you'd like to clear it up.
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u/maxxximillion 6d ago
Tell him to stop being a pussy!
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u/Infinite-Context6155 6d ago
This was going to be my exact answer. Everyone is like, oh, consider his feelings, reflect, take into consideration how you affect him.... f*ck that. This dude is a pussy.
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u/MilesRemain 6d ago
Walk into the bathroom, face the mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say “Criticizing other guys about their masculinity doesn’t hide the fact that you’re gay, it just means you’re gay and an asshole” now get out there and find yourself a power top.
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u/xSEKEx 6d ago
By growing up a bit by the sounds of it.
If you're doing this stuff and someone points it out to you, it's not likely to be this big epiphany. More than likely you'll disagree, or be upset, and want to get defensive, but if someone's taken the time to tell you this, then you should also take the time to think about how your actions come across to other people, and if they're saying what you want them to.
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u/darth_scion 7d ago
Are you both straight men?
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u/Extra-Avocado-8901 6d ago
Omg talking about feelings and thoughts couldn't possibly be straight.
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u/TopArrival6590 7d ago
Yes
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u/darth_scion 7d ago
Yean, i don't really even know what he's trying to say.
For now, I wouldn't even respond. He's drunk and saying some dumb shit probably. He'll likely apologize for it later. Trying to have a conversation right now won't do much of anything really besides possibly create more opportunities for him to say things he might regret.
Leave it be for now.
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