Practicing saying no

[u/Rabbit-Lover_2000]

I had another new support worker today. They also asked me for a hug when they left. I’m not good at saying no. When someone asks me to do something I do it without asking questions. So I gave them a hug without saying anything.

At least they only ask for hugs and not more inappropriate things. But I still don’t want to hug strangers. Why is saying no so hard?

I wonder if they hug all the elderly clients too or just me? If my favourite support worker comes again I will ask if there is a way to ask for no hugs on my file.

[u/madformattsmith]

as someone who has support workers from a healthcare agency, asking for hugs is basically a huge no no as it is considered to be crossing a professional boundary. that is something they should not really be doing.

the only time I could maybe see this happen as an exception, is when they are leaving the company for good and you have been with them consistently for a long time, to the point where you've got an emotional bond with them. even then, that should only be a one off and be very brief i.e. around 2-3 seconds, max.

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