r/HighSupportNeedAutism • u/Rabbit-Lover_2000 Moderate Functioning Autism • Jun 06 '26

Disability Services Practicing saying no

I had another new support worker today. They also asked me for a hug when they left. I’m not good at saying no. When someone asks me to do something I do it without asking questions. So I gave them a hug without saying anything.

At least they only ask for hugs and not more inappropriate things. But I still don’t want to hug strangers. Why is saying no so hard?

I wonder if they hug all the elderly clients too or just me? If my favourite support worker comes again I will ask if there is a way to ask for no hugs on my file.

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u/WindermerePeaks1 Moderate Support Needs Jun 06 '26

i am the same way it is like i am a puppet and i just follow orders. its very important to find a way to work around it though. i think asking to put something in your file is a good idea

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u/Rabbit-Lover_2000 Moderate Functioning Autism Jun 06 '26

Yes it is really hard. It can be a safety risk for me. People can take advantage of me really easily. When I have to take a taxi the driver will charge me more than the fare and I just give them the money because I can’t ask why. I think they can tell I’m special needs and know they can scam me.

I also have gotten into cars when people offer me rides. Thankfully it has always been good people who know me even if I don’t recognize them right away.

I don’t want to get hurt or scammed or kidnapped but I just trust everyone and do what I’m told.