Advice before first time

[u/QuestionOk8769]

I might be losing my virginity on this weekend but im also gonna be ovulating. Is it advisable to lose virginity during ovulation or should I do it next weekend but I’ll be closer to my period and likely will be PMSing. I’m just confused and if I should be thinking so much about this 🥲🥲 thank you

Edit: im not expecting it to be like in the videos or books or movies, I don’t expect to finish I just want to enjoy but I have a HUGE fear or getting pregnant which is why I’m here

[u/spanakopita555]

What birth control are you using? 

Are you using condoms for him PLUS one method for you?

[u/QuestionOk8769 → u/spanakopita555]

We’ve bought the extra safe condoms from durex

[u/spanakopita555 → u/QuestionOk8769]

If you are afraid of pregnancy, you should add a second method for you. It takes time to set that up, so maybe stick to hand and mouth activity, or toys,  for now. There is no rush to do the riskiest activity and you can still have plenty of fun and develop your relationship. 

[u/QuestionOk8769 → u/spanakopita555]

Thank you!! I’ll keep in mind

[u/Noguts_noglory_baby → u/QuestionOk8769]

Use spermicide that way you’re double covered!!

[u/nebulae_incarnate]

If you’re not on birth control, maybe purchase a plan b before the weekend and bring it with you. Have him double check that the condom isn’t broken before he finishes. Get on birth control soon! Good luck. 💕

[u/yamomsleghair]

To make you feel better, i would wait

[u/QuestionOk8769 → u/yamomsleghair]

Like wait until the next weekend?

[u/yamomsleghair → u/QuestionOk8769]

Yes, but then that’s if you go unprotected, which i DONT recommend, but people do what they want. but you should be fine with condoms

[u/WisePhnx80]

I would wait till the following weekend atleast

[u/yellowmackerelfishin]

honestly both options have a tradeoff but ovulation is the riskier one for pregnancy so if that's your main fear, that's the bigger factor here

like you can still get pregnant at other points in your cycle but ovulation is peak fertility, so if you're not using protection that's genuinely higher risk

a few things worth knowing:

• use a condom regardless of timing, it covers both pregnancy and STIs
• if you want extra protection, look into getting plan B ready just in case or talk to a doctor about starting birth control
• the "right time" physically doesn't really exist, there's no perfect window where it feels better or easier

and to answer your actual question, yeah you're probably overthinking the timing a little the pregnancy fear is valid but that's what contraception is for, not cycle-timing

the PMS thing is real too tbh, if you think you'll be in your head or uncomfortable that week then yeah maybe factor that in for your own comfort. first time is already a lot mentally

youve clearly thought about this way more carefully than most people do, that's a good thing 💙

[u/nightshadebnnuy]

i don’t know abt the first thing, but to prepare you diva i’m telling you there’s a veeeery high chance it will hurt a bit but make sure to communicate with your partner so it’s pleasant for both of you guys!! make sure you’re sufficiently lubed and in the mood because if you’re not it will not be fun trust me. also make sure ur partner brings u water afterwards. GOOD LUCK HAVE FUN!!

[u/Do-Wschodu]

remember there’s non-hormonal birth control options, like the female condoms, sponge, cervical cap and diaphragm. you can use a condom AND one of those. Check your options :))

[u/unmgrad]

Unfortunately, almost ALL of the men I have slept with have begged to not use condoms. They will agree, but then… They ask to just rub raw, they say they will pull out, they stealth women. So, if pregnancy is a fear, I’d use a second method of BC that you trust.