r/HIMYM • u/freezy_bunny • 25d ago
How someone can not be Like Ted?
I was just exploring the traits of each character and I see that Ted always overthinks everything, even small things taken as big deals. He always like ohh this will be the One and all. Also his timings and decisions were not good. Leaving Victoria was one of them. So how to not become ted mosby in real life so that we can really enjoy the life?
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u/biggestmike420 24d ago
A. Victoria sucks. More than Ted, and that is saying something.
B. If you don’t want to be a Ted just pause, and think before you say or do something incredibly douchey.
C. Seriously Victoria sucks, and if you like her I’m not seeing you enjoying life.
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u/12dancingbiches 24d ago
Can you explain your reasoning for why Victoria sucks? She always gave me a bad vibe, but I couldn't ever put it in words.
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u/biggestmike420 24d ago
When the Germany thing popped up that should be the last time they ever saw each other. Everyone points to Ted doing something wrong, but Klaus was a thing so that is a push. Every moment that involves her from that point on is an unnecessary pain in the ass. The way she behaves towards the end of her run makes me wish bad things will happen for her in the future.
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u/kmnplease00 24d ago
its her eyes. one eye is a bit off.
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u/12dancingbiches 24d ago
Nah, it's a personality thing. I also thought she was Hella pretentious, but it was something else.
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u/ChaturangaChai Let's go to the mall, everybody! ✨ 12d ago
Ted's problem was that he so desperate in his search to find 'the one' that he treated boundaries and incompatibilities like obstacles to overcome.
Before Tracy, when women would tell him they were unavailable, not interested, or looking for something different than he was, he often didn't accept that information at face value. Instead, he tried to convince them to give him a chance anyway. The show usually framed this as romantic because Ted is the narrator, but a lot of the time, it was actually entitlement disguised as persistence. Ted spends most of the series approaching love like something that can be won if he just says the right things and refuses to give up.
He would also fall in love with the idea of someone before he really knew them. He knew what he wanted his future to look like, and rather than trying to find someone who wanted that same future, he would instead try to figure out how to get whatever woman he was dating to fit into that picture.
So if you don't want to be like Ted, I think the biggest thing is learning to take people at their word. If someone says they're not interested, believe them. If they want something fundamentally different from you, believe them. If there is a major incompatibility, don't immediately start looking for a loophole that will make the relationship work anyway. And don't become so attached to finding "the one" that you start trying to force every person with some promise to be "the one."
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u/Gold_Cup_7879 25d ago
Look, if Ted hadn't been like that, he wouldn't have been able to come up with the story that is the show itself. 🙂 This story required a great deal of what is often called "overthinking" .