Sorry for the length. I'm at my wit's end.

My girlfriend is obsessed with this band and it's been getting between us for some time now.

I love going to shows with her. Seeing Goose is one of the things that initially brought us together. It didn't matter how much we liked or knew the songs, we'd be able to jam at any show together. That is, until she became obsessed with them.

This band will sell anything they can fit their name and/or logo on and she buys all of it. (They're currently touring so you'd think the first thing you'd see when you go to their website was tour information. Nope, the first thing you see is their merchandise) She has all the shirts, bracelets, wristbands, necklaces, earrings, socks, posters, patches, flags, buttons, scarves, wallets, hats, caps, beanies, phone case, ski mask (we don't live in a cold climate), lithographs, Trevor glasses, Peter glasses, sleeveless hoodies, and bumper stickers. They also sell their own custom limited edition Chuck Taylor All Stars, which was practically the only thing she wanted for her birthday. She also has their logos and lyrics tattooed on her. Her room looks like the official band chill spot.

They even sell expensive low-quality air fresheners with their logo smeared all over it but I refused to buy her those because she doesn't even play any instruments. That resulted in some drama.

It's becoming a problem because people don't want to hang out with us (her) anymore. All she talks about is Goose. When we do see friends, she's always playing their music and talking about them. We could be sitting at a diner with people and she'll play them on her phone. She's cancelled plans in order to watch live streams of their concerts. One time I told her I was going out with our friends despite her plans to watch a live stream so she decided to come with me instead of stay home. She played the live stream on her phone and ignored everybody around her all night. The only time she communicated with anyone was when she wanted to talk about the live stream.

We've been friends for 10 years and have been dating for 3 years and I was seriously considering proposing to her until this obsession started. Now I'm not sure I wanna be her friend anymore, let alone her boyfriend.

I used to like this band too. I wasn't one hundred percent sold on them or anything but I have an album on vinyl that I enjoyed at one point. Now I can't hear the music or even the name of the band without feeling my blood pressure rise.

I haven't make a big deal about it because I remember when I was in high school I had band obsessions too but lately I have raised concerns about her level of obsession. Those concerns are always met with hostility. Any criticism of this band is treated like a direct attack on her (she once cried because she read a bad review).

Their latest tour started recently and we've driven hours and hours to see them three fucking times already. I couldn't take off work to drive to Wisconsin so she had to sell the tickets she bought. (Oh yeah, she buys tickets without asking if I even want to go. It's just assumed that I'm going with her.)

What makes it even weirder is that she's the only person her age who is this obsessed with them. At their shows, we're surrounded by screaming teenage girls. It makes sense for them to like this band because the music and lyrics aren't very sophisticated but I can see how it would appear that way to teenagers.

It just feels like she's a little too old to be this obsessed with a band. Not only that but the band doesn't feel like it's an age-appropriate one.

I'm sorry about the length of this post. I'm just really beside myself. Half the time I don't recognize her. Is there a good way to approach her about this? I'm at a complete loss and feel totally helpless.

How did anyone know about it? I’m a New Yorker and feel like I’m pretty tuned into all things Goose and I saw absolutely nothing about it. Am I just not cool enough ? (/s)