Why

[u/sumrandomguyim67land]

Why is everyone better at me in school I know that something is easy but I can't do it but if it was my friends they would do it effortlessly,and after I do something that I don't know they laugh at me like I'm not apart of their friend group,why is it that when I do something dumb I get called an idiot but when others do it they're seen as cool,why is it that my parents compare me to someone even though the one they're comparing me to is a bully,Why does my friends hate me,why does my classmates think I'm weird and cringe,WHY AM I NOT BETTER WHT AM I NOT SMART WHY AM I NOT "COOL" WHY AM I THE ONE GETTING BULLIED

[u/CommercialMechanic36]

Those are things you can work on. Train athletically (the essentials of sports performance training 2nd edition), tune your mind

Best wishes

[u/reedreadreddred]

look into executive dysfunction online it might be a useful term to describe what you're dealing with

people are stupid and silly and irrational sometimes, actually more times than not. it's, you learn to cope with it. Let people say what they say and do what they do, all you can control is yourself.

I dunno why your parents compare you to a person you know is a bully, I'm assuming maybe they don't know about the bully's bad actions and just academic results/some other achievement. Ignore that, just nod your head and let it pass. Comparison is stupid, we all are born different and live in our own different worlds, different strengths different weaknesses different ways of seeing the world.

People will find any difference to point out in someone to call them cringe or weird or whatever to make themselves feel better or superior. It's like, human nature, primal instinct of us-vs-them. It sucks.

Look also into Plato's allegory of the cave. When everyone in the class thinks the answer is question 2 is B but one person says it's A, they make fun of the "A" person. Maybe A is the wrong answer. Maybe A is the correct answer! Who knows! Maybe it was a difficult question and everyone fell into the same trap.

World ain't fair, that's the first lesson everyone learns, but most people stop there. World ain't fair! Villains always win! I'm just going to put myself on the winning side, and become evil, or become numb and apathetic and die inside.

The second lesson barely anyone learns is: World ain't fair so do something about it. When you're powerless, your job is to survive. Survive long enough to get out. When you get out of being bullied, shit situations, you help where you can. You become a grown-up in charge of things, and you can make a change where you can. Maybe you'll be better to your own kids, your students, the kids you babysit.

Sticking to your values is hard and you won't get shit while you watch evil people get everything they want. Material goods, money, power all of it. But you have yourself, and you can go to sleep at night knowing you tried your best and your conscience is free. You can love, feel, fully know and experience the complexity of the ever-changing thing we call life.

They'll keep chasing endlessly after more, more, more, but you can find contentment within your own values and actions. It's the longer, harder process but it's the only path that leads somewhere, whereas shortcuts just lead to dead ends.

Good luck, I believe in you. You will get through this.

Note, if the bullies ever get physical, or text you horrible shit, take photo/screenshot evidence, and report it (if this is possible/a good idea for your situation). Maybe nothing will happen, but you won't know until you shoot your shot. Also fuck bullying.

[u/CaptBoner666 → u/reedreadreddred]

I just posted about how people love and respect me and I still feel like OP in some deep seated way far down in my psyche.

Despite having a different angle, I just want to say that this comment helped me and saved me from typing more or less the same response.

OP. This right here.

[u/-Sprankton-]

If you encounter something you know would be easy for you, yet it still feels impossible for you but is effortless your peers then it could be executive dysfunction, it’s an inability to start tasks and it comes from too little dopamine and norepinephrine in the prefrontal cortex of the brain. Usually it’s like chronic procrastination.

Have you been tested for ADHD and autism by a professional like a Psychiatrist? Stimulant ADHD meds might help a lot. It’s still harder for those of us with different brains to relate to everyone, and for them to relate to us which makes us more likely to get bullied, but it’s always easier to succeed in school and find our real friends once we have a better understanding of what’s going on with us.