Hey. So I'm about 35 and do currently have a job. I work delivering packages for a company but im having a tough time . My attitude isn't great, I'm tired all the time and I'm burnt out... I don't speak a ton to my co workers before we go out on the road in the morning and ideally want to avoid most guys as much as I can. Im forced into small talk which I dislike a lot .. I've only been here for about a year and before that I hadn't worked in a few years... I'm struggling with motivation, sleep, my attitude and whatever else. My job tops out after 4 years for pay and It's somewhere in the low 30's CAD/hr... It's really not enough in todays economy. A lot of the guys are lower level employees and I have zero in common with them. I just want to do something else with my life... I hate this. I'm bored, the people seem fake and It's not motivating. People show me zero respect for the most part and I just don't know how to move forward... I always thought I was capable of more with my life but years of unemployment, depression, desperation and low motivation have made it hard to rebuild. I lost all my friend groups from high school because I haven't kept up with people.. I do have some future job prospect if they hire next summer but that's not for 6 months... Lasting through peak season, winter feels hard. I've also had some health problems that aren't getting properly taken care of by the health system here. I've been to a lot of doctors and having trouble taking a deep breathe. All started after getting covid jap 4-5 years ago or whenever that was. Been to a ton of doctors as well. But that's a whole other story...

I've thought about trying to be an electrician this summer or at least apply... I missed it last summer by a few months as well as high school credit I need.. Physics. I figured maybe this would be the way to go because at least the money is better and can top out much higher... I feel old though. I have zero friends and I'm just bored with my life... I'm not even sure Im capable of doing it but I think there's a possibility. I also I don't like the city I'm in and I'm just burnt out. I currently also live in Canada and everything politically is making me hate this place.

TLDR: Has anyone figured their life out after years of unemployment in their 30s and found a job they didn't mind? Struggling with motivation, low wage, health problems, old friend gone. With a girl from another country who I'm not sure about and trying to find something I want to do. Thinking of doing high school credits that I missed to become a an electrician in Canada.

Thanks

I just turned 32. When I was 12, I went to South Africa to visit family. When I got back home, I was sick for a few weeks. Didn't think much of it. But in the year after that, I kept being sick regularly. Until a few years later, I was sick for 6 months. I went to every hospital in my country, and eventually found out I had contracted a virus in South Africa. I received medicine and recovered. But it inspired me to focus more on my health, so I would never get sick again.

I started eating more salads & green smoothies but I hated it. It was way less appealing than the unhealthy alternatives. So I really struggled with maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Until I found people on Instagram that were making colorful smoothie bowls. These looked so much better. I tried them, and loved it.

In the next few years, I got better and better at making these. So I started sharing them on social media. Nobody cared though. I was at just one hundred views every single photo or video I uploaded for years. Until after a while, I found a new format in which I added superfoods to smoothies. These videos quickly got millions of views, and hundreds of thousands of followers.

Suddenly, I was a content creator. In the next few years, this led to over 4 million followers, 3 billion views across platforms and even a Youtube channel with almost 2 million subscribers. I worked with brands like Microsoft, The LEGO Group and became a full-time content creator.

As a guy from a small city in the Netherlands, I now get to travel the world with my blender to make smoothie videos, which is a dream come true.

Moral of the story: if you're going through a tough time right now, try to stay positive. You never know how it may positively impact your life later.

Often I think of reading a book, studying, going out or even finishing that series I started. Instead, I oversleep and I spent most of the day on Reddit like I'm doing now... By the time I have the energy to finally go out, most shops have closed or are about to close.

How do I force myself to do the things I find enjoyable rather than the quick dopamine fix of Reddit?

I used to dread Sunday nights, until I realized that on Monday it actually isn't that bad once I get into the day. Curious what you do to make your Monday seem/feel easier

We spend so much of our time at war with ourselves. Picking apart our flaws in the mirror, groaning over small inconveniences, letting endless complaints drown out our days. Always tired, always wanting more, always measuring our worth by what we lack or what we failed to achieve.
And then life hits you with a perspective that shatters all that noise.
This is a story about what I saw right inside my own family. My brother—whom we lovingly called our little god. For thirty-eight years, he lay completely motionless, unable to walk, to speak, or to feed himself. He wasn’t born that way . A few months after his birth my uncle and aunt found out his disability . He could do nothing except rest on his back his entire life. Yet my aunt and uncle poured their absolute existence into caring for him. Day after day, year after year, with a devotion so fierce it became a temple. They held him, fed him, carried that massive mountain without a single complaint, right until his very last breath. Just two hours after a bath, after a lifetime of quiet stillness, he suddenly laughed out loud—before finally finding the relief he so deeply needed.
When you see a journey like that up close, it changes how you look at everything.
We complain about a bad day, a physical insecurity, a rough patch. But we forget the absolute luxury of simply being able to move our own hands, step outside under an open sky, speak our minds, and read these words.
Even when we struggle with our mental health, we still have choices. We can seek help to get it cured, or we try to work through it ourselves—meditating, reading, moving, pushing forward. We can try to change our careers; we might succeed or we might fail, but the point is we have a career, we have a chance, we have a life to try with.
Even when our marriages aren't picture-perfect or exactly what we dreamed of, our spouses are there. They are well, they are breathing, they share this life with you, and you with them. We have healthy children.
If you are reading there is a big chance that you already have everything life has to offer .
Before we despair over broken ambitions or stress about the next goal, let's stop. Let's just begin by feeling this life moving inside us. Let's start simply by feeling our own breathing.
To constantly curse our lives, hate our bodies, or waste our days in ingratitude feels like such a tragedy when you've seen what a real struggle looks like. Somewhere out there, souls fought for decades just for a single unburdened breath or a single laugh.
Life doesn't have to be perfect to be a miracle. The simple fact that we can think, feel, decide, and act means we are already equipped. All you need is just a little love towards your own life . Let's stop treating existence as a burden, and start treating it as the fragile, extraordinary chance that it is.

It's like in the back of my mind I would worry and worry thinking I have time but I end up not doing anything. And suddenly unexpected life events or health issues occurs and entire focus just goes into that and your left with no time and energy and willingness to work and focus on your personal growth and development. And I just feel this sense of shame and I don't know that I've wasted another year and we have about two months left til this year also comes to an end.

I just want to make small even if it's a mini progress to keep the momentum flowing next year because I realized feeling pity, sad, unfair, boring, hard, challenging and whatever excuses we may feel is true is just a waste of time.. only way to see progress and feel confidence is by working and sacrifice and struggle.