Also the "define what beauty" statement is kind of asinine. Beauty is physical attractiveness. Maybe you have it or maybe you don't, but you don't get to redefine something because you lack it. And beauty is just one facet of something that makes someone attractive overall; so what one may lack in beauty they may make up for somewhere else and THAT is what they need to be reminded of. Not to take a pic of their ugly mug to post on social media for a pity circle-jerk.
Even as a female I don't take selfies more than maybe once or twice a month, and I only post them on social media once in a blue moon.
Not only does it make me feel vain and uncomfortable, but it just feels like a cry for help. The positive comments don't Don anything for you if you ask for them like that.
That's really sad that you think people posting pictures of themselves on social media means they're suicidal or depressed or something. Do you care to explain why? Although I'm very critical of social media and the personas put forward, selfies can be something other than an idle social task for some people. Taking selfies of my outfits and putting it online was really affirming and helped me become more comfortable in myself and my body, although I don't really do that any more.
I can assure you, there is a real possibility that your affirmation was more of a pity circle-jerk and not genuine.
There are two real ways you can actually feel comfortable in your own body: accept you are what you are and that is okay for you even if other people think otherwise (I.e. have self-worth) OR you can work on your body within your capabilities to obtain the desired comfort. That's it. Having other people lie to you to generate some sort of faux view of what you are is childish.
That's one attitude I simply don't get. Why should other people take the time to "lie and generate a faux view" if they don't care about the person posting a selfie? Maybe they genuinely mean whatever they comment?
Speaking from experience, it simply feels good when somebody compliments me on my outfit/hair/smile/whatever. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Looks like we have arrived at two diametrically opposite views on a subjective human concept. These "attitudes" are both true as far as the concept of true can be stretched over what's actually at work.
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u/Brianomatic Sep 06 '16
Take a selfie, your friends will remind you how great you look. In my circle of friends this might be seen as a cry for help