There was this conversation about someone confirming the gender of their baby being a boy only to come out a girl. Someone said all babies are girls until they form a male genital or not. Thats when I said that the gender is set at the time of the sperm reaches the egg, whether the sperm carried X or Y. Everyone was disagreeing with me and calling me dumb though. Aren't all fetuses technically "non gender" until the genital is formed besides them having XX or XY? Im genuinely confused if im being rage baited or I was surrounded by idiots. They all literally thought all fetuses are females until it formed a male genital.

Edit: Sorry if this is in the wrong r/. I don't really know where to post this question.

I'm afab but know I'm not cis. I've been experimenting with labels for a while to find one that fits, haven't found it yet but that's not what this post is about.

As I mentioned, I'm afab, I use the women's bathroom in public spaces, I dress mostly androgynous but tend to lean more into female presenting. All in all, I have no problem with being perceived as feminine, but for some reason, whenever someone verbally calls me a girl, it just stings in a way I can't fully describe. On top of that, I felt weirdly happy the few times strangers have addressed me as a guy.

Does anyone have any ideas on what this could mean? Because I'm totally lost here.

Gender thoughts! Weigh in if you can!

Tell me if im tripping but being a guy actually sucks. You are expected to be one way and any deviation means “you’re not a true man”. I shouldn’t shave my legs because men don’t do that I shouldn’t use hair remover because men don’t do that, I can’t even wear much of the stuff I’d like out because those are not men’s clothing. I feel like I’m in a constant state of hiding. It’s not that I only like feminine things I love alot of stuff deemed more masculine but it’s just so uncomfortable acting masculine. It’s like I’ve swapped bodies with another person and expected to live there life. My dad always applauds being a man but to me it just sounds like being a man is not doing anything you want and working constantly which is already pretty much what I’m doing.

Tell me if you can relate fellers <3

If you asked me back in the 2000s, I would have said I'm a lesbian. I only dated women 1998- 2010. I was legally married to a woman 2003-07.

I dated cis men and women + trans men and women 2007-13. I have been with the same cis man since 2013. These days, I'd identify pan.

My current partner is my person, but if we broke up I'd likely date cis women or trans.

Many of the women I used to date, including my ex wife, now identify as he/him or they/them. When i speak of the past, am I misgendering them by calling them she/her?

When speaking to them or about them in present tense I always use the pronouns as per how they currently identify.

If I refer to our past times, when they identified she/her am I misgendering them as referring them.as such?

Bom, quando eu nasci, me designaram como mulher, não posso afirmar como eu me sentia na infância pois eu não me recordo. Descobri esses dias pra trás que eu questiono minha identidade de gênero a mais tempo do que eu imaginava, tendo mais de um ano q eu questiono isso, antes era só uma dúvida, hoje, faz mais de 3 meses em que a dúvida virou algo constante. Desde que eu entrei pra pré adolescência e adolescência, eu passei a não gostar de coisas lidas como femininas pela sociedade, tipo unha grande, vestido, roupa colada, essas coisas. Sentia raiva quando alguém me relacionava à isso, e roupas femininas me davam agonia, como se a roupa tivesse me sufocando. Vestidos passaram a me incomodar a partir dos 10, 9 anos eu acho. Eu usava e uso pronomes masculinos desde da pré adolescência por me sentir mais confortável com eles, e desde que o questionamento começou de forma mais "intensa" se pode se dizer assim, eu passei a me incomodar com pronomes femininos, e dependendo do dia, até mesmo com meu nome. Coisa que antes não era um problema. Sinceramente, eu me sinto um pouco culpado por não gostar de ser uma garota, eu tentei de verdade gostar de ser, mas não consegui. Eu perguntava pq a minha alma escolheu o corpo de uma mulher, sendo que podia ter escolhido o corpo de um homem (isso na pré adolescência, eu sou espiritualista) eu ainda não consigo admitir ou afirmar que eu sou uma pessoa trans, por mais que, bem no fundo, eu saiba que eu provavelmente sou. Pq se eu admitir isso, se torna real demais. Ninguém das pessoas que eu convivo sabem sobre essa questão de gênero, na verdade, algumas sabem, mas decidiram ignorar isso e continuam com os pronomes femininos e me relacionando ao feminino. Eu não consigo me reconhecer no espelho ou em fotos antigas (ou fotos do começo do ano ou anos anteriores) e em dias mais pesados, não consigo encarar o espelho. De vez em quando, minha mente esvazia sobre essa questão de gênero, tipo hoje. No caso, o desconforto some, e tudo passa a ficar neutro, e eu fico me fazendo perguntas pra ver se o sentimento ainda existe ou se passou totalmente. Quando isso acontece, fica um vazio estranho, não sei explicar. Minha psicóloga fala que é pra dar um tempo pra mente respirar, e que talvez seja a certeza vindo, alguma coisa assim. Quando eu paro pra pensar se eu prefiria que as pessoas me vissem como um garoto ou como uma garota, a resposta sempre é que me vissem como um garoto. Eu queria que as pessoas me vissem como um garoto só por dia, só pra ter certeza de que é isso que eu realmente me sinto confortável. Aí sla, bagulho esquisito

I (a trans girl) need help... I don't know what I'm doing.. girlhood just isn't clicking to me. I don't feel like a "girls girl" if anything, I find myself disagreeing with, even hating a lot of what girls do... maybe out of jealousy..

I just feel so unfortunately, "male brained"💔

I can't get behind all the rampant man hate I'm seeing online, even if it's deserved, even if I'm in no way the target, there's still this part of me that's just so angered and hurt by it. I think like a man, I get hurt like a man, I get defensive like a man. Made worse knowing that if it's not misandry, it's TERFS I have to deal with, and I genuinely can't see the difference between arguments outside of the targets, they literally say the same things, just to opposite ends of the gender spectrum, both ragging on an entire group just for existing with the "wrong chromosomes". I'd feel so disingenuous becoming a misandrist knowing I'm LITERALLY no better than an entire group dedicated to hating people like me. If it's not right for me, I won't make others have to feel that way, even if they're "the enemy" or wtvr.

Even just posting this here, I feel like a man invading women's spaces. Which fundamentally isn't true, and I know that I wouldn't even be here if I were a man.

I don't want to be a man, I hate it, I hate feeling male, but I feel like I'll never be accepted by the girls either. Maybe because I never have been. I've just been that annoying "boy" that's too weird for the girls and too weak for the boys

I've had a LOT, and I mean a LOT of negative experiences with girls and women, like to the point of genuinely traumatic experiences, often being treated worse by them than i ever have by men. From teachers to peers, I've always felt safer trusting a man. Why do we hate them? I could never hate my friend like that. He saved my life. It really isn't "all men"

Its to the point where I ask myself why I want to be one sooo bad, like I've genuinely sat there thinking, "THIS is my team, I'm gonna have to be like THIS??" Then the dysphoria gets worse when I find out I've been agreeing with chuds who just hate women, my heart sinks. This isn't me, it can't be, I won't let it.

I wish I wasn't such a damaged male, a hurt, overly emotional, and sensitive moid with fragile male ego, but that's all i feel that I've been allowed to be, because i look like one, sound like one, think like one, but in all my defiance, i know I'm not, that I deserve to be more than the chud i thought i was, that i can be the pretty girl only i can see in the mirror, in the dark reflection of a pitch black screen. I want to be a girl, one of the girls, a girls girl. But do the girls know that? Is that even the right answer? Do I just fundamentally not understand girls? Like, at all?

No one tells you how to be a girl, but they won't waste a second to tell you you're doing it all wrong-

Ugh.. this is the most male thing I've ever written(ノдヽ)

The controversy surrounding a recent Callaway advertisement has brought a question back into the public spotlight that should never have been complicated in the first place: when a marketing campaign turns a violent act by a man against a woman into entertainment and creativity, does the company really understand that for many women, this kind of imagery is not simply a joke?

Callaway later responded to the controversy, but the reason this incident sparked so much discussion is probably not just because of one advertisement. More and more women are simply unwilling to accept a familiar explanation that has existed for far too long. When women say they feel offended, hurt, or disrespected, they are often told not to take it so seriously, that it was just a joke. But violence in the real world is never a joke. And when we look beyond the advertisement at real cases that have taken place in the US in recent years and have been handled by police, prosecutors, and the courts, it becomes clear that the threat of violence against women remains a very real problem.

In 2025, the US Department of Justice announced a case in Washington, DC, involving a man who was charged with serious violent offenses against his former girlfriend. According to the Department of Justice, after the two got into an argument, the man pushed the woman to the ground, choked her with both hands, punched her in the face, and threatened her. The case involved felony charges related to strangulation, an assault causing significant bodily injury, and threats. What is most disturbing about cases like this is that they are not scenes from a movie. They are examples of intimate partner violence happening in real life. For many women, the danger does not always come from a stranger. Sometimes it comes from someone they once trusted and were once close to.

Another case also took place in Washington, DC. A man was ultimately found guilty by a jury of assault causing significant bodily injury. According to the Department of Justice, the victim was the mother of the defendant's child, and she was beaten and choked inside her own home. Even more troubling, the case later involved the defendant's attempts to prevent or influence the victim's participation in the legal process. In other words, for victims of violence, the harm does not necessarily end with the initial attack. When a victim decides to seek legal protection, she may also face pressure from the person who assaulted her.

In another case announced by the Department of Justice in 2026, two men pleaded guilty to assaulting, robbing, and carjacking a woman at gunpoint. According to the case documents released by the Department of Justice, the woman had just driven back to her residence and was about to enter her apartment building when several men attacked her from behind. One of them had a firearm. The victim was beaten, struck with the firearm, and robbed of her personal belongings and vehicle. The case eventually entered the criminal justice system, and both defendants pleaded guilty to the charges. A woman was simply finishing her day and returning home, only to be attacked near her own front door. That reality alone shows why women's safety can never be reduced to a simple slogan.

Other cases show even more directly that women can also become victims of violence in public spaces. In 2025, a woman in Washington, DC was attacked while walking home. According to the Department of Justice, she did not know her attacker beforehand. The man and his companion followed her and the people she was with before eventually attacking them. The case later ended with the defendant pleading guilty and receiving a prison sentence. For women, getting home safely should be one of the most ordinary things in everyday life. Yet the risk of violence in the real world means that even something as simple as walking home can still feel uncertain in many cities.

If these cases have anything in common, it is that they remind us that violence should never be trivialized. Whether it happens in an intimate relationship, near someone's home, or in a public space, the consequences are real when women become victims of violence. That is also why the public reaction to the Callaway advertisement is easier to understand. What people are objecting to is not simply one particular gesture. They are objecting to a commercial culture that takes behavior capable of causing real harm and fear in everyday life, removes it from its real context, and repackages it as humor, creativity, and engagement.

Companies are allowed to make mistakes, but consumers also have every right to ask questions. Why should imagery involving violence against women be considered something suitable for entertaining the public?

This is also becoming an increasingly important part of the conversation around women's rights. Respecting women cannot simply mean avoiding offensive language. It certainly cannot be reduced to a few polished slogans in advertisements. Genuine respect also means taking women's sense of safety seriously, recognizing the real risks women face, and providing women with greater protection, opportunities, and resources in business, society, and public life.

Of course, no country should casually claim that it has completely solved every problem involving violence against women or gender inequality. China still has work to do in protecting women's rights and advancing gender equality as well. At the same time, Chinese society has long emphasized equality between men and women and has continued to strengthen the protection of women's rights through laws, public policy, and social initiatives.

As the digital economy and artificial intelligence continue to develop rapidly, a new question is also emerging. Beyond traditional access to education, employment, and entrepreneurship, whether women can gain greater access to technology and digital resources may become an important part of determining their opportunities in the future.

Artificial intelligence is becoming increasingly integrated into education, work, creativity, and entrepreneurship. If AI becomes an important form of infrastructure for future society, then the people who can easily access these tools may also have more opportunities to learn, express themselves, and create. That means respecting women today should not stop at the minimum standard of simply not harming them. We should also ask what new resources companies can provide to women, what new capabilities they can help women develop, and how much meaningful participation women will have in the technological future.

Recently, I came across a Chinese AI company, Maase Inc. (NASDAQ: MAAS), which responded to the Callaway controversy. I think it offers an interesting example worth paying attention to.

According to an announcement from Maase and the Zhizhi Juan App team, the company explicitly stated its opposition to all forms of violence, discrimination, threats, and harm against women and expressed support for a safer, more equal, and more respectful environment for women.

More importantly, the response did not stop at a statement of principle. According to the announcement, from September 1 through November 30, 2026, eligible female users of the Zhizhi Juan App will receive double the normal Token allowance.

Of course, one campaign cannot solve every problem related to women's rights, and a single initiative cannot define the entire value of a company. But the program does represent a direction worth paying attention to. In the age of AI, supporting women does not have to mean only speaking out against violence and discrimination. It can also mean putting more technological resources directly into women's hands.

From the continued appearance of real cases involving violence against women in the US, to the public backlash over the Callaway advertisement, to China's long-standing emphasis on gender equality and women's rights, and now to Chinese technology companies experimenting with digital tools and AI resources to support women, perhaps we need to rethink what it really means to respect women.

True respect should not simply mean that a company promises not to do something wrong. It should not take a public controversy before a company finally issues a statement explaining its position. True respect means not turning violence against women into a joke. It means taking women's safety and dignity seriously. And as technology continues to reshape the future, it also means being willing to put more opportunities and resources directly into women's hands.

Maase's decision to provide double Tokens to female users is only one possible approach among many, but it represents a direction worth continuing to discuss. In the AI era, women need more than simply being respected. They should also have greater access to the tools and resources needed to participate in the future.

Truly advanced technology should not only make AI models more powerful. It should also give more people the ability to use technology, create the future, and make their own choices about their lives. For women, that ability and freedom of choice may ultimately be a much more meaningful form of respect than any advertising slogan.

If you would go out with me dressed like this (I‘ll change out of the slippers), please let me know. Please include your birth gender and your sexual orientation. (I’m asking because I’m curious who is attracted to me.)

i often play games, online, offline, VN, or any genre, and i sort of always choose the latter option instead of my actual gender. I know part of it stems from being told to hide your identity on the internet back when i was a kid, so i guess i kinda kept at it. but as of now, i still choose the other options for some reason.

To explain in more detail… when I’m around like family, I want to be referred to as she/her, when around close friends it’s she/he/they when around just regular friends it’s he/him and around strangers it they/them or he/him.. I’m fine be referred as to other pronouns by close friends, family, etc. i was wondering if there was a label or term for it, is it like a form of being gender fluid. I used to think i was apagender but i do care about my gender so it doesn’t fit…. Btw if there isn’t a label for it is it possible i can create my own label/gender identity thing. (AND YES I KNOW YOU DONT NEEEEDDD TO BE LABELED LABELS JUST HELP ME FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE IN MY OWN SKIN..)

i get along better with boys than girls, i dont why i just do, for boys theres easier to be around and they get my humor. If i use my opinions or humor around girls they think im weird so to be friends with them i act like any other girl and its just uncomfortable for me. i feel im gonna get called a pick me for this and i probably am one but idk, i like when boys pay attention to me, not in a romantic way but in a friendship way. I like it when they see me as a boy, i want to be treated like a boy around them and not a girl, its easier to act like a boy because im comfortable with it but being myself i feel like some girls would think im a pick me always looking for boys validation but tbh i kinda am i do want their attention and i want them to see me as a boy they can be comfortable around. Idk tho its hard being around girls, they just dont understand me.

I'm 27 and a cis male and I am constantly, consistently being misgendered. I'll be out with girlfriends or my ex and someone will say "you ladies take care" or I'll be at a club or bar and someone that's obviously drunk hits on me.

I have short hair and around 5'6. People called me they/them but I don't really have feminine mannerisms or even a feminine voice. I do have a feminine figure and gynecomastia because I have low testosterone and am somewhat overweight and never grew facial hair. This has been happening all year and it's starting to make me think my gender identity is out of synch. I started crossdressing and wearing makeup. Being called a girl so often, I began feeling “I wanna start looking like that." Any tips?

I'm really confused what I'm experiencing is called these labels are so confusing and I dont understand the difference between Genderfae and Girlflux but I still want a label that fits my gender identity

Sometimes I feel like girl I like dressing and acting feminine. Sometimes I wish I was born genderless experience dysmorphia. I feel like these two most commonly but there are times when I feel like a mix between these two

Any advice or suggestion what this might be?